Stop Putting So Much Pressure On Yourself.
A quick guide on being human
Pressure is a strange anomaly.
It can be good, help you strive for those goals and get shit done.
But all that good stuff comes at a price.
Pure and simple mental exhaustion.
It’s tiring trying to be and do everything.
It’s even harder in a era where the internet is king and the whole keeping up with the Jones’s theory is magnified to its extremities through digital accessibility.
With the world literally at our fingertips, it’s difficult not to get sucked into the vortex of not doing or being enough to fit or exceed the status quo.
Its not even social or peer pressure, it seems to be more in our minds. This idea that we have to be these superhuman creatures.
Succeeding in every aspect of our lives. Career. Personal Life. Physical Appearance. This idea of being 'goals’.
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How is a person to remain sane when everything around them pushes them to become an entity outside of themselves?
In a world where we’re constantly exposed to the glossy, rose-tinted highlight reel of other people’s lives, and we constantly compare our shit or even perfectly normal day to a carefully pieced together illusion; it brings to question how we could even possibly begin to achieve such 'goals’.
It’s everywhere, even here on Medium; this pressure to be hustling, entrepreneur with amazing time management skills and 10 ways to beat procrastination and get ahead.
Do you see what I mean?
I understand that a lot of the time, pressure is an amazing thing that gets us doing things and striving to achieve but is it worth it?
Is it worth the social media validation?
Is it worth putting your mental and physical health at risk to match and exceed someone else’s sunny day?
Is it worth the anxiety and depression triggered by setting yourself unrealistic expectations?
I don’t think so.
Yet I do it just as much as anyone else.
It’s difficult to get out of the mindset to not compare yourself to ideals, that aren’t always achievable.
To not pick yourself apart over every tiny thing. To not see the grass as being greener.
Because it isn’t.
We’re all facing our own shit storms and tumultuous challenges.
Staring at the shiny make believe world pieced together online. A beacon of all the things you 'should' be. Never really seeing the dark side of it, the human side.
The times when that fitness guru, decided to eat pizza instead of that brown rice, grilled chicken and veggies healthy meal because they didn’t feel like it.
The times the entrepreneur’s deal fell through and they felt like a failure, and almost through the towel in.
The times that ‘goals' couple were arguing and nothing seemed to be going in their favour and they didn’t want to even look at their significant other let alone post a 'goals' photo.
Things are never as they seem.
I know in all those examples the people in question didn’t give up post slip up but that’s just it. They slip up. They make mistakes. We all do.
No one is a superhuman.
Comparing yourself to someone’s thousandth time doing something to your first is foolish.
Putting that much pressure on yourself is just not worth it.
You’re only human, stop putting so much pressure on yourself.