Caren, you are a Canadian with more social support programs available to you such as maternity leave. Those living in the USA have much more stress because we have much less support. So what is your answer? No one should have kids? Just because it’s hard we don’t deserve support? And of course you can’t empathize with someone who has had children since you have chosen not to so I’m not sure why you even commented on this article. To invalidate the experience and feelings of the rest of us?