Honestly it took alot of perspectives for me to be able to write this. It was a conversation with my sister in order for me to honestly find the words I used here. She is an amazing ally to PoC without being one herself, (sister no by blood) but because of our closeness we are able to have conversations like this one, where she can give me great feed back. I think one of the ways conversations like this one have to start is from a place where both people respect each other. She and I are able to have these conversations because our relationship is one where we understand that nothing is personal and that our end goals are all about getting to a better place.