What more can I say about my wonderful nephews. This whole new blog experience would be focused on them only if I really wanted to, but I’m doing this for an inspirational purpose and that is to share what inspires me and inspire others in the same way.
“There is a little boy inside the man
who is my brother…
Oh, how I hated
that little boy.
And how I
love him too.”
― Anna Quindlen
My nephews have taught me more then they think they have through their sibling relationship. Like all sibling relationships we fight, we get along, we laugh and we cry together but nothing compares to the special feeling of the love we share with our siblings. Its different then the love we share with our parents and or any other loved one. Its a love that we only understand between ourselves. We know what can lift us up, what can inspire us, even what can make us laugh. Its like as siblings we have our own secret code to life that no one else knows about. To me it’s fascinating.
And as for my nephews they to seem to have that special sibling/ brotherly relationship. Sometimes I can catch them arguing and a few minutes later be best friends. What is most great about their relationship is the short span of their anger toward each other. To them love is greater then anger. To them anger wastes to much time and energy to fuss over. Love conquers all in their way of sibling life.
a brother is
even better than
being a superhero!”
― Marc Brown
I can’t even count the many times these kids have laughed and joked around with each other. Seriously, it can be for hours upon days even. Nothing escapes them from trying to make something funny. It’s the nature of kids to be happy all the time. At many times they have lifted me up by their laughter alone. For them laughter is the key to making everything alright.
Ever since we (my family) found out about Zackaria’s Autism diagnosis, it shook our core as a family. Not because of the diagnosis but because we wanted to make sure that Zackaria had a normal and fun life, especially as a kid. Numerous therapy’s, support and prayers were surrounding our family on a day to day bases. It was hard in the beginning, we didnt know anything about autism and had to learn about it for the sake of Zack and his entire health. There were times where we felt drained by it all and times where we felt blessed by it all. No matter what came our way, we stood firm in knowing that God had everything under control and that we would continue to love Zack for the loving child he is.
When Zack’s brother Xavyon came to our lives we feared how he would react to his brother’s way of life through Autism but what we got in return was amazing. Many times an autistic child would keep to himself or herself. Always doing things alone or even seem as though they are thinking a lot to themseves. Xavyon noticed this a lot from his brother and decided to do something about it and became Zack’s personal means of therapy through laughter. Everytime Xavyon would see his brother wonder off alone physically or mentally he would call out to him and make funny faces. This automatically changed Zack’s emotional state from sad to happy in mere seconds. Zack’s laughter would be heard all around the house and would make us smile because we knew that his mini therapist (xavyon) was working for the day.
This happened more and more frequently and we began to see extreme changes in Zack’s behavior and mental state. Zack was always a happy kid but his brother made him even happier. When rough days arrived, laughter and happiness was right around the corner. Through the means of laughter and brotherly love Zack has turned from a child of autism to a child of blessing to others. Everyone loves Zack, the first time you see him you fall in love with him, especially with his wonderful smile. And when there is a Zack around there is an Xavyon following behind, both creating a bond of laughter and fun with everyone they meet.
“When brothers agree,
no fortress is so strong
as their common life.”
Nothing gets in the way of the brotherly relationship these two share with each other. They can see each other everyday of every week and still miss each other. They go to the same school and when they see each other they call out to each other saying they miss one another not before leaving with a hug. It’s their kind of brotherly relationship and many kid sibling like relationships we should look after in becoming. People of love, compassion, of laughter and making long lasting relationships and friendships with one another. Learning to make the other happier then ourselves for no reason, just because.
Anger, resentment, fear or illnesses should never get in the way of the relationships we have with each other or even the human race in whole. This reminds me of a song I heard a while back titled “hey brother” by Avicii, a song that talks about us caring for one another whether or not we know of each other.
Let’s believe in one another and care about the reality that we all are living a life that should involve each other.