TAKING A PAUSE BEFORE UNIVERSITY
Helping your child find true sucess
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
I am going to come right out and say something most parents don’t want to hear. I don’t believe young people should go directly from high school to college. Of course, I realize this might bring parents to the edge of their seats with worry and anxiety, if not cold sweats. In my travels across the globe, I have heard the same response many times over. It goes something like this, “But, Mabel, that is fine for you to say, but we want our children to be responsible, trustworthy, hard-working professionals who make good money and can afford a better life.”
I smile softly, then ask, “Did you realize that your long list of hopes for your child didn’t include being happy?” This will get a few people scratching their heads, along with a few mumbles. I know what many are thinking. It’s the same thought most of the world has — the idea that peace and happiness is the byproduct of a good, hard-working life.
We have it backward. Happiness and peace come first.
Now, to be clear, I’m not saying our young shouldn’t go to university. This is far from the truth. I have two degrees and believe higher education has an essential place in the world for many (not all). The point I am trying to make is that our goal in raising conscious and responsible children should be to help them first access their divinity while allowing them to grow into who they were meant to be. Our young people need time to find out who they are and what their passion is so that when they do go to university, they will be going for all the right reasons — to learn more of what he or she loves and to become the best at doing it. In the words of St. Catherine of Siena, “Be who you were created to be, and you will set the world on fire.” But we must first know who we were created to be.
Unfortunately, we often go to college for all the wrong reasons — either to keep up with everyone else, in some false competition or because we are routinely programmed by society to do what everyone else is doing. We learn that we cannot do what we love, at least not until we’ve paid our mortgage, put food on the table, and secured a good retirement account. We’re also taught that going to college will bring us the academic title that will guarantee us a good job and the security we seek. And then we’ll be happy.
Once again, we have it backward. And if you don’t believe me, look at all the people who have followed this path only to end up unhappy, with a life of stress and anxiety. Maybe you’re one of them.
At some point in our lives, we decide, consciously or unconsciously, to allow these beliefs to determine our future. We believe we are “somebody” because we have a university degree, or we feel inadequate because we don’t have one. We are convinced that we will know better if we have a university education, assuming that those who are more educated are also more worthy. Well, let me tell you, the more knowledge you have, the further you may be from wisdom or truth, and, only “the truth shall set you free.”
The truth begins by realizing that our young don’t need to go to school to become “somebody” or be successful, valued, or obtain security. They need to go to school to become more of themselves. And sometimes this takes a pause, a breath, a step back so that they can find themselves — know themselves — which will ultimately lead them to believe in themselves.
To know truth, we must all let go of everything we’ve learned before, all the knowledge we’ve acquired, and release our beliefs, perceptions, and expectations. Truth, like the state of Zero Frequency®, is an experience. It cannot be described in words. We get there when we are open and willing to say, “Maybe I don’t know as much as I thought I knew.”
Suddenly we know things with our heart.
And once our children know things with their hearts, then they will be ready to go to university so that they can truly become who they were created to be, at which point, they will also be ready to set the world on fire.