Herb Coleman
Sep 3, 2018 · 1 min read

For this one, my first thought was, “You don’t have to know the 5 love languages. You just have to pay attention to what they like and what lifts them up and what doesn’t.” For example my wife is not into flowers, jewelry or candy. That doesn’t mean she doesn’t appreciate gifts but I have to work hard to listen and pay attention to what lights up her eyes. TBH, I often just ask.

The key to a lot of this is to not fall for the fairy tales, Hollywood, and love song versions. Be real and authentic and know that feelings and levels of feelings change. For me, the worst is game playing. As far as I’m concerned, love is NOT a game. Yet, I know others who get caught up in that dance and enjoy the ensuing drama. Not me.