The Interested Challenge

Life is all about people around you. And a contented life all depends on the type of relationships that we have made in life. In this world of technology, everything is moving in a fast competitive way. Society seems to be changing everyday but a happy and content full life is still depending on a simple basic rule and that is your ways of dealing with people around you. Successful or contented life is not achieved by locking yourself in a room and develop a mindset that I alone can achieve anything in this world but it is achieved through long struggle and surely involves the contribution of many love ones like parents, siblings and most important friends.
Friendship is a bonding that doesn’t involve any blood relation but sometimes can be more helpful than blood relations. It is a kind of relationship that everyone cherishes but not everyone has the chance to have it in life. It’s an investment that you make by giving love, respect, importance and your time and in return gets a long lasting friendship in life.

The book “HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE” by “DALE CARNEGIE” depicts the lesson of how much making friendships and good relations with people is important in life. This book gives very good examples of famous people who have made good relationships a very important tool in achieving a prosperous life. The book not only gives lesson but teaches me the ways of how to make good relationships in life and through these relationships how I can influence people. There part of the book which is worth mentioning where the writer relates the value of loyalty in relationships with the friendship that he and his pet, a dog named “Tippy” had during writer’s childhood. Loyalty its self is very much demanding in a good and trustworthy relationships.
The book concludes me with a moral that good relationships are not made by making people interested in you but by making people know that you are interested in them. It’s a nature fact that every individual in this world is interested in knowing their own self or their purpose in life. Therefore, in relationships it’s important to give other people the insight that they are being given importance. The stance that I am interested in you, in your life experiences, in your expenditures, or in your little amazing stories etc will definitely is enough in winning one’s heart and that leads to a trustful and an adorable relationship. But if you are more of focusing that other people should be interested in you, should give importance to your stories and you are just showing half of your devotion to them than firstly they will listen to you but eventually they’ll become bore of you and this will not give you a good or a trustworthy relationship. Such relationships are not helpful or long lasting.
“NOBODY CARES HOW MUCH YOU KNOW, UNTIL THEY KNOW HOW MUCH YOU CARE.”
Theodore Roosevelt
The lessons and the ways the book has taught me are very much worth mentioning. And implementation of them in my life is much more than experimenting. The activity performed by me to talk with my friends with a mindset of not being interesting but interested in their talks was very experiencing and at the same time was very informative. During this activity, I got a chance to talk with one of my good college friends. Her name is Nayab, she is one of the brightest and top students of our college. Also, she’s one of my friends with good and soft heart and above all she is very supportive and helpful in her nature. It has been two years since I’ve graduated from college but my friendship with Nayab is still the same but since past two to three months I was not able to talk with her because of my busy schedule. But the activity initiated by Amal academy’s project was very benefiting in starting a talk between two friends. In this activity my goal was to talk with a friend where I have to listen instead of talking about myself or answering that what’s new happening in my life? I just have to ask questions to my friend that what she’s doing these days? What are her plans or goals for future? Or what challenges she is facing this days? The main purpose of this activity was to experiment that how by giving importance and by taking the stance of being interested in other person’s stories or life can win that person’s heart and can lead to a strong friendship. My experience of implementing the knowledge gained from the book called “HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE” was very experimenting and concluded me with many learning.
It is true that winning people’s heart is not done by imposing your thoughts and ideas on them but it’s done by allowing yourself to know about others. Through this activity I was able to learn that winning friends or any relationship can only be gained with a simple true fact of giving not taking, means by giving respect, importance and showing your friends, your love ones that you are interested in them will definitely leads to a strong relationship that can be long lasting throughout one’s life.

I conclude with this statement that this book has made me realized that showing respect and importance is everything in a relationship. The key for a happy and prosperous life is to have those people in life who are trustworthy, helpful and real friends in real means. And this can only be achieved by a simple basic rule of showing others that you are interested in them not by showing that you are in the process of being interested in them or that other people should be interested in you.
