You Can’t Have Widsom without Silence

Here is how to incorporate it into your life

A few years ago, a co-worker and I decided to do a week-long fast for the success of our current mission. She was going to give up music in her car and I was going to give up coffee. I like music.

Out of curiosity, I decided to drive home in silence one day as well. In a world full of noise, I am actually no stranger to silence. Have scheduled prayer into my life for the past six years, I have grown comfortable in a distraction less room. On this drive, however, I noticed something a bit different. I remember telling my friend that with nothing on in the car, I felt the fullness of my surroundings. Yes, the airwaves were empty but without all of the noise, I could hear so much more. In an environment void of distraction, I could make sense of my day and enter into my thoughts with clarity because there was nothing in the way.

Proverbs 9 describes the woman of wisdom and the woman of folly. The writer describes the woman of wisdom as one who is prepared. She recognizes that “the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. On the other hand, the first attribute attributed to the woman of folly is that she is loud.

She is loud.

It also says that she is undisciplined and without knowledge.

Noise leads to confusion and its fruits and chaos and lack of understanding.

The first time I read this, I immediately thought of every single thing about our world. Distraction has become the air we breathe so much so that silence feels foreign to us. It is this very distraction however that leads us into foolishness because we are not quiet enough to sit with ourselves and our choices. Silence is filled with the beckoning of wisdom but it first requires us to deal with everything in the way. It reveals to us many of the ways we have fallen short and most of the time, we can’t handle it so we turn on the closest device or get lost in the distraction of our iPhone.

My friends, I submit to you that we actually cannot become wise men and women who know the heart of God if we do not develop an ability to sit in silence.

This Lent is a great 40-day opportunity to follow the lady of wisdom into silence. Mother Theresa said, “In the silence of the heart God speaks.” He wants to know you and he wants you to see yourself the way He sees you, through the eyes of genuine love. So here are three suggestions on how to incorporate silence into your life this Lent.

1. Schedule quiet time at your house: Turn off your phone at 9 pm along with your television, your iPad, your Xbox and anything else that can distract you. Pick a book to read or journal about your day. Not only will you gain a better understanding of yourself but you will also sleep much better and have clarity going into the next day.

2. Go to the adoration chapel a few times a week: This is my absolute favorite place to sit in silence because the room is literally filled with the presence of Jesus. If silence leads to knowledge of the Holy One, the best way to practice silence is in the presence of the Holy One. This will change your life, I promise.

3. Drive in silence: Ok, so this is my least favorite because I am a podcaster but it is just enough of a sacrifice to increase your virtue. Driving in silence will increase your awareness of your incredible surroundings and hopefully bring you to a deeper gratitude for what you have been given throughout your day.

At the end of my life, I want to be known as a woman of wisdom and so I have to get comfortable with regular silence in my life. This Lent, I invite you to join me and reap the benefits that wisdom can offer.