Why ‘Not Knowing‘ is fine

Yesterday I found myself in a quite stressful situation. I met a long-time friend that I hadn’t seen in almost 7 years, and I was pretty excited and happy to finally see him, until he asked a question that felt like a stab to my heart, when I told him that I didn’t have a job:

“Well, and do you know what you want to do with your life?”

This question left me speechless. What was I supposed to answer? Yes? I don’t really know what I want to do with my life, but telling him that didn’t sound like a good answer. While mumbling, trying to find something to say, I could already feel the judgement. I didn’t like that feeling.

At the end I worked my way out of that question with phrases such as “We never know where life can take us” or the amazing “All I know is that I don’t know anything”. When I got home I realized something; we’re almost forced to know everything about us, life and how things work when we become adults.

You wouldn’t judge a little child when they say I don’t know. Why judge an adult? The truth is that not knowing is awesome. People who act like they know everything aren’t able to enjoy the feeling of discovery. When you learn something new, when you free yourself from that social cage of know-it-alls, that’s when you find a new meaning to life.

Free yourself.

Learn. Discover. Enjoy.

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