On dating men with “potential”
Christiana White

I’m one of those with “potential”. Maybe not quite to the degree that this article identifies men of such stature, but I identify nonetheless. It’s not so much that I have left behind so many opportunities and wasted my life, but I have wasted my potential and am only now starting to get off my ass and do something about it.

My problem was that I suffered from depression more or less my whole life. I’ve actually achieved many things during this life that many won’t, but I have had periods of time where I did little to nothing and sat on my laurels. About a year ago I suffered a major depressive episode, the first of my life, which I am only now pulling myself out of. It took the love of a woman, one who now wants nothing to do with me, to admit to myself I had a real problem and get help.

I made many mistakes, and learned from all of them. I’m *this* close to getting myself back over the hump. I could not do it alone. I needed to be open and confide in friends, I needed a couple of different therapists, and even some chemical help in the form of scrips. Every situation is different, mine is not yours, but if you were drawn to this article because it resonated reacting with anger is not the answer. Looking in the mirror and owning what you have or have not done and coming up with a plan to do something about it IS the answer. It’s too late for me to recover what has been lost, but it’s not too late to make up for lost time.