Life is hard, you need another person to share it with
I’m not sure how hard it could get for someone, I guess everybody measures their own spectrum of hardship, but life is pretty much problematic. Everybody’s keep saying it all depends on your mindset and the way you treat a certain situation, it’s not that they aren’t right, they are actually right…but let’s face it, it’s freaking challenging to keep yourself calm and satisfied when somebody is ruining everything. It’s baffling indeed not to pay attention to what kind of people surround you, even though you’ve got all the chances to pick the surroundings for yourself, you still can’t do it in your workplace, on the road, in a shop, etc I assume only your home is left and the place for you to let your body and soul rest in the evening. Everything else is taken, just taken, you either accept it or you deny it by stating how well-controlled you are. A bit of lying as to me.
So my question is how difficult does it get in life? Is it possible to remain the person you want to be without another person, another someone meaning a partner or a child or just somebody who truthfully cares for you. I don’t have a specific answer and the truth is, no one has got one. I figured that as long as one is satisfied with himself he won’t drag another person in his life for saving him. Do we need somebody when we are happy? — indeed, do wee need somebody when we feel down? — more than ever, do we want someone we could deliver anything including our deep selves? — without a doubt. The truth is everybody is picking this “somebody” for themselves, a pet,a so-called friend or a partner, a mistress or blog, a book or wine bar. There’s no such a term as being lonely, there’s a term of not having found the thing or a person that would busy some space in your mind and heart.
The topic I’m touching upon is a bit philosophical, but on the other hand it’s just an every-day thing you run into. I know so many people who cannot be on their own, who literally incapable of finding the place for themselves. I feel really harmonically and filled when I’m alone, just with myself. But how many people are like that? how many people can stay alone for more that half an hour. Well, I’m not going to judge, there’s still an reason and if I don’t do that it doesn’t mean I don’t understand or not trying to.
The point is no matter how comfortable it is for you with self, there’s always a moment you wish somebody could be right behind you, and for most of the time it’s either a member of your family or a person you have your heart and eyes for. Severely, but I believe it’s the truth, leastwise mine.
You can be in a sooooo verrryy good place, but it’s always a better place with someone, always. And he or she’d better be somebody worthy of your time, emotions and heart. Even if it lasts one evening or one day or one night. There’s always a reason, and this reason is you and your choosing. You chose this person. So never regret it.
And, another truth is(just to cover yourself with one which doesn’t really exist) it doesn’t matter how fulfilling and involving your hobby is or the thing you love to do and gaze at, it doesn’t matter how perfect it is, it will never compare to a person. Things aren’t able to give the feelings people could give you. Another low blow, but still frank one. One person could bring you hell and heaven, no thing is capable of that, now matter how hard you try.
And….just to make it even worse, if you try to heal from the person who has demolished you find the remedy in another person, that is the only way for you to survive it and get through with it. Get rid of things, really, don’t fool yourself that your job is going to help, well it could, but it takes balls and waayyy too much time, you don’t want that. Just my advice.
Life is hard indeed, but it is better with someone you can share it with.
Stay true to yourself