Exactly! We say that we have these obligations because we want to support someone we care about — certainly, a laudable goal. HOWEVUH: what does support mean? What does that look like? I aim to be present physically, but also to be present emotionally: to share in the excitement, to commiserate, to listen when someone’s panicking about the idea that the wedding will be ruined if the centerpieces aren’t done. A lot of that can be done long-distance, and without bankrupting yourself.