A single mom in the world

If you want to know one of the hugest things that consumes a single moms mind in her early stages of growth? Having a completed family, that means finding a husband and a father for her child. These thoughts are just the beginning to her long road of growth and transformation!

Honestly she probably doesn’t even know what she wants! It is through trial and error that she slowly starts to learn because in her confined sheltered existence she never knew the world, and now it’s like waves crashing down over her through her revelations.

So! I guess the real question is what does she deserve when it comes to love? This is about the one, that once-in-a-lifetime kind of love (TheVow). This world has torrn me apart in my heart and soul, telling me lies about me and what I desire and it has been a wonderful struggle discovering who I am! The pressure felt from the world, is confusing my heart, it tells me that you better grab him up quick before someone else does. It tells me that “oh you don’t want to fall in the friend zone then you’ll never have anything with him”. Bbbrrrrmmm wrong!!!!!!!! I have felt a painful agonizing pressure in my heart when I feel chemistry, have mutual attraction with someone. This pain tells me that I will feel better once I have gained conformation that that person likes me. But in order to get that conformation it usually involves talking to that person and telling them that you “Think their Hot”, and honestly that is already the start of an unhealthy relationship to an honest person who wants truth and real love from the start. Here is how I see it once you cross that line it opens up the man’s ego to pursue the next step and from my experience most men can’t help but pursue a certain specific next step. It’s a natural desire but it will most likely cause pain and suffering in someone’s heart and we have a way to avoid this! Taking time I think is a most crucial part of starting off any relationship! And honestly if you can believe in yourself and know your worth taking your time is the most exciting thing you will ever experience! Once you have actually gone through the process of not crossing any boundaries and just staying friends with some you will experience an accomplishment of growth where you start to see yourself and something greater than that of previously. You will gain a confidence in yourself because you will actually see your strength and that decision of going slow showed you who that person was and maybe it wasn’t someone who you want to be with although maybe they were a good person you discovered that a personal relationship was not going to work but I bet you that if you would have jumped into bed with that person either it wouldn’t have ended quickly and both people would be hurt or you would end up stuck in a relationship with someone who you aren’t in love with and usually those are the circumstances that ends up in divorce, sometimes children are involved and that is super painful!!

Truth

God’s spirit doesn't make cowards of us. The spirit gives us power, love and self-control! 2 Timothy 1:7

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