I am not a counselor, but I have a strong feeling about the connections we make, the effect we have on each other and the endless opportunities to contribute to each other’s growth. Whenever you are in a situation, a relationship, or an interaction, one that you can’t get your head around, something that makes you feel horrible, despairing, helpless, or just plain bad — you can affect it, even at it’s worst.
I am not perfect. I will try to keep my message neutral and as positive as I can. I say these things to keep me from forgetting them when I need to remember. These words are as much for you as they are for me. And remember while you read this, hope springs eternal…
You can make changes in your life. You are in control. You are powerful. You can have whatever you want, or, if you don’t know what you want, you can choose notto have it either. This works regardless of what your brain tells you, if it says that you are stuck, trapped, or you can’t get out. There is always an alternative. First and also most important, you are not alone.
Whether you trust in your vices, religion, faith, friends, family, or if you believe in anything at all, then still you have to trust that there is salvation. There must be somewhere to turn or some way to get help that is not based on complaining or bitching or avoidance. Start by getting help and you are one step closer to making a change.
Nothing can hold your power back; power like your eternal light. The world is your endless possibility, and simply thinking about positive outcomes is enough to make things happen. Furthermore, action towards a positive outcome is even more powerful. Anger and guilt and hopelessness will get you nowhere except further into being lost. You can always wander with hope, into the middle of nowhere, with better results, than negatively into a desert of despair; into a place you don’t want to be.
You cannot ever make life fair, because what’s fair to one person may not be fair to another, but all is fair in the grand eternal. As things balance themselves out. Stop accusing others, or yourself; accept the ‘flaws’ you see and maybe if you nurture growth in a positive way, everyone will be able to admit to oneself what they need. Then you won’t have to end or continue in turmoil, it will just become an experience that passes. In other words, I’m saying: nurture your situation to develop it into a learning experience instead of fighting it with anger. The pain is hard, the hurt too much. That is in your control as well. Someone once said we only need pain to learn… until we don’t need pain to learn anymore, then we can just learn. You control the pain and the hurt; they are only concepts, not real, natural phenomena. There is nothing physically wrong, and even in those that do have physical pain, you can see them conquer their pain through vision.
Just a reminder: even if you are in the middle of a situation with another person, you cannot take their interpretation — which probably hurts them as much as your situation is hurting you — you cannot take it personally, because if they are there, they are stuck as well, and you are both in it together. Don’t feel hurt and denied, but try to understand how everyone got there in the first place. Most people in pain do not see that they are loved just for who they are. We have the power to remind each other, and you have that power too.
Look, you can put a lifetime into anger, or hurt, or negativity; you can live your life miserably as a wife, a husband, a son, a daughter or partner of any kind; however, you can also decide to invest a much shorter time into developing a relationship filled with love, understanding and compassion. This will help you grow as much as it will help others grow, to the point that they can become a person who can make admissions to themselves; the very same admissions you look to be honest about, here, now, within yourself. You are a powerful person, capable of that love, if you let yourself.
Vision is the leader of our lives and you have to see the potential future to make it happen. So by simply believing, you can make it happen, without even trying. Words like “anger,” “hurt,” “guilt,” and phrases like, “It’s too soon,” and “I can’t,” are only negative steps that will keep you wandering. You may see the vision once, and may not have the ability to sustain it constantly, but with small steps you can head in the right direction. We must take these steps whenever opportunity presents them, to keep the journey moving forward.
You are ready when your ears are listening, your eyes are seeing and your heart is open. So make yourself ready.
I feel like we can all inspire people. You can too.