Sex Toys We Like and Recommend (Some Very Kinky)
Whether you’re looking for the essentials or extremely kinky, fetishy sex toys, here are some of our picks.
A lot of couples own and use sex toys. According to many polls, the majority of women own a vibrator. Our first sex toy was a vibrator, which we purchased in about 1999. Since then, we’ve accumulated a nice arsenal of playthings, some of them pretty average and some of them quite naughty. Here’s a list of what we own and how we use each:
ESSENTIALS
If you’re interested in getting some toys for the bedroom, these are the ones we recommend. We keep most of these in our nightstands because they get used so often.
Wand Vibrator HIGHLY RECOMMENDED
Lauren’s wand vibrator (pictured above) is her go-to for clitoral self-pleasure and it’s a workhorse in our bedroom for her…and me. If she’s masturbating with a vibrator, odds are that it’s with her wand. Also, she or I will use it to stimulate her clitoris during intercourse, which gets her off and also feels great to me. She and Piper use it on each other. Piper has one as well. It has great battery life, multiple speeds and a sizable head. Plus, it’s relatively quiet. It’s never let us down — its orgasm rate for Lauren is basically 100%. This is the go-to.
G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator/Dildo (link) HIGHLY RECOMMENDED
Great for vaginal penetration combined with clitoral stimulation, this vibrator/dildo is mostly useful for Lauren when she masturbates, when she and Piper are having sex or when I want to penetrate Lauren while she’s giving me a blowjob. The main difference between this vibrator and the wand is that this vibrator penetrates her vagina while also stimulating her clitoris. Its curvature allows me to thrust the dildo in and out of her while the clitoral vibrator remains in place.
We have also used it for anal penetration.
As with the wand vibrator, it’s never disappointed. Its orgasm rate with Lauren is 100%.
Handheld Dildos — 10" and 8"
We primarily use Lauren’s dildos when we want double-penetration fun. This might include double vaginal/anal penetration, which always includes my cock and also the dildo (not the two dildos at the same time). The 10" is preferred for vaginal penetration and the 8" for anal penetration. Quite honestly, our dildos don’t get a ton of use these days but it’s quite fun to slide the 10-incher into her twat and watch her reaction as our eyes roll a bit.
Astroglide (link) HIGHLY RECOMMENDED
Anal plugs, anal sex and anything involving anal penetration require great lube. Plus, Piper and Lauren use Astroglide if fisting is on the docket (by the way, if you are a woman and have never been fisted or you have never seen your female partner fisted, it’s interesting…). Astroglide has never let us down. It’s also great for cock-teasing and edging. We have home-use and travel bottles.
Sex Wedge Pillow (link)
The above-linked wedge isn’t exactly what we have but it’s close. This little wedge pillow is a mainstay for variations of missionary position, doggy style (vaginal and anal), cowgirl and oral sex. We keep our pillow in our closet.
VERY KINKY — NOT FOR ALL
These toys are more risqué and we keep them in our safe. That said, sometimes get lazy with our anal plugs and keep them in our nightstand. Oh well!
Anal Plugs (link) HIGHLY RECOMMENDED
Rarely does Lauren — or Piper for that matter — not wear an anal plug when we’re making love. Anal plugs became a thing for us only a few years ago. The above-linked set is what we own and over time Lauren has graduated, if you will, to the largest of the three. Just lube it up and slide it in — quite easy. In case you are wondering, yes, I have tried an anal plug — Lauren inserted the smallest of the three into my ass. It felt good.
Strap-On Dildo (8.5")
Lauren and Piper have been known to use our strap-on dildo on each other when they’re enjoying girl-girl fun. It’s primarily a toy Piper uses on Lauren, though I have seen Lauren fuck Piper with the strap-on. I have obviously never used it on either and they’ve never used it on me. When the strap-on comes out and Piper starts thrusting it in and out of Lauren, it’s really hot to watch. I don’t always have tickets to that performance but sometimes I do.
Suction Dildo — 12"
For double-penetration shower fun. Only occasionally used.
FETISHY/BDSM — DEFINITELY NOT FOR ALL
These are fetishy/BDSM toys we also kept in our safe. These are sex toys we don’t want anyone to ever find…not our child, not our housekeeper…no one.
Handcuffs/Restraints (link)
We own two pair of the above-linked restraints. We use them quite a bit, whether it’s just Lauren and me or Lauren, Piper and me. We use them during oral sex (either the person being pleasured is handcuffed or the person doing the pleasuring gets them — depends on the mood and intended effect) and occasionally during doggy style sex where Lauren or Piper’s hands are cuffed behind their back while they’re being penetrated by me or the strap-on dildo. These are very kinky and this kind of fun isn’t for all couples/threesomes.
Whip (link)
Although Lauren prefers to be spanked with my hands, occasionally our whip does come out for fun. The above-linked whip isn’t exactly what we have but it’s close. It is fun to spank or whip her ass while we’re having sex and she’s calling me “daddy.”
Ball Gag (link)
Maybe the naughtiest thing we have? As noted above, Lauren does occasionally enjoy being dominated and ball-gagged. The ball I’ve linked to is the one we have — it was holes for breathing and is designed for safe fun.
Urethral Sounds (link) RECOMMENDED
We own the above-linked set. I wouldn’t recommend urethral sounding to all guys because watching a textured rod get inserted into the urethra can freak a guy out but I’m here to tell you it’s been done to me for pleasure, and it felt quite good. Being married to a surgeon, I knew I was perfectly safe, though slightly nervous, when Lauren slid the sterilized sound into my urethra and proceeded to gently give me a handjob as she licked my balls. After the initial shock of the insertion, I started to feel quite good as she began to work me over. When finally I was about to cum, I asked her if it should stay in or be removed. “Stay in,” she whispered. And I came…only the cum barely oozed out of me. When finally she slowly slid the rod out of my cock as I was on the back half of my orgasm, the semen coursed out of me. It’s not a regular part of what we do but occasionally she’ll break out the sounds for some fun.
So there you have it. Do share what sex toys you use!
