Should We Move to the Next Age Bracket or Retire from Swinging?
Once we hit the big 5–0, it feels like the dynamics of our lifestyle suddenly start to change.
To go to the next age bracket, retire from swinging or risk becoming “too old”…that is the question!
When Lauren and I began swinging with other couples more than dozen years ago, we were in our mid-30s and in essentially the same age range as others we typically joined for fun, whether for foursome action or full-on sex parties. We never felt too young or too old, mostly because the mid-30s are kind of the sweet spot for swinging.
But now that we are in our late, late 40s, we’re beginning to notice we’re on the older size.
I’ll give you an example: Literally on Saturday night, we were with five married couples, all of whom we know well. They’ve been married between 5–17 years and the average age across the ten is roughly 36. Other than us, there was only one couple in their 40s and they were both 41.
For being in our late, late 40s, we both still look good, particularly Lauren, and we both have high sex drives. In party situations, she has always been a magnet especially for younger guys who want to have fun with “an older woman.” In short, Lauren is still hot as fuck and both of us love to get it on with other couples. That said, we are not getting any younger (Lauren is in pre-menopause and I have started to get gray pubic hair!) and we’re increasingly noticing the ages of our lovers.
The question of if we go into the next “age bracket” for swingers or retire from the lifestyle has come up. We could stay with the couples in our main circle but these couples aren’t the only ones we have fun with. On any given weekend, we’re invited to parties that often include couples we don’t know — and almost all of these couples are younger than we are and happy to have fun.
When in a year we’re both 50, we’re not sure we’ll be comfortable having fun with, say, 35 year-olds.
If we move into the next age bracket, we’re not sure we’ll enjoy it because we tend to like getting it on with hot, younger couples energized by the newness of the lifestyle. Not to say we don’t occasionally hook up with couples our age or older; we do. Last year, we had fun on a few occasions with a couple then in their early 50s and they were hot and fun but hot, fun couples over 50 are hard to find. That’s one reason why easily 90% of the couples we have fun with are in their 30s.
If we continue to play with couples in their 30s, at what point does it become creepy? And at what point do the younger couples start to see us as “old” and not want to play?
All of the couples we regularly have fun with tell us we’re hot and on any given night Lauren and I are in high demand. Other couples want to have fun with us. Younger guys practically line up to fuck Lauren. Simply put, couples in 30s are a lot of fun. But we know this isn’t going to last.
So do we move up to the next age bracket or do we retire?
We welcome advice!
