Recently, I was put in complicated history between a couple. I am friend of the girl and the guy never saw me or even met me before, but suddenly I became the villain of the history (no, I wasn't involved with her, besides our friendship). It was kind funny (for me, at least) but made me think about it.

It seems that everyday each of us are trying to be “the good guy” or “the nice girl” — maybe it is a “social evolutionary move” to progress in society, I dunno, but this is not the subject here. But the question that I've been doing to myself (and right now to you too) is:

Why can’t we just be ourselves, even if we are the VILLAINS?

Do not be afraid from who you really are! It sounds slushy, but this time I meaning it. For years, people judged me (and you, perhaps) a person almost completely different from the “real me” (or "real you"). Ok, it is a long discussion about what image you sell to other people (I already written about it before here — in portuguese), but in the end, they will most probably be wrong about you (except if your a psycho ¬¬).

So, I reflected about myself and my actions looking for to be the “nice guy” and I saw that was wrong about me either, because I am the villain (and, again, maybe you too)! I am not “that nice guy”. Some months ago I had a great friend that really liked me (at least, it was what she told me), but everyday she distrusted me (besides some other accusations). Everyday I have tryed to say to her and prove that I wasn’t who she was thinking — that I was not the villain. But now, I realized that I was the villain and I should not have tried to say otherwise. It would be way more easy for me (and for her, I guess). But don’t misunderstand me: all her distrusts was sad mistakes. But even though, I was trying hard to prove otherwise just (I believe) to do not be the villain to her. I failed (and she either, as friend)! That, together among other histories (I have lots of histories in work, for instance), taught me this:

You don’t have to prove to anyone that you are not the person that they say.

Our society rules us that we have to be pretty, skinny and successful — although, there is no place for everyone, neither genetics. For years ago, it demands us to be examples of persons, be the "heros", be "nice". Refuse this kind or “rule”! I refusing now and accepting the “real me”: sarcastic, acid, unreliable (for non professional relations), hard to deal, ugly and even other compliments that other people labels me — because I do not have to prove to them otherwise something that they even know is true.
I just accepted, finally, that I am one of many villains in our society. I think that everyone should do the same.

What kind of villain are you?

Well…I already have some inspirations (besides myself).