Why would anyone want to be a gentleman? Chivalry’s dead! Don’t you know the concept of being a gentleman is a sexist idea that promotes the subservience of women in the tradition of a male dominated society?!
Whoa, whoa, whoa, let’s slow it down for just a minute. Bear with me while I explain why this site is necessary. Due in large part to the American Feminist movement — just calling a spade a spade here, not throwing stones — many men have found themselves in a peculiar place in this new world. Perhaps a majority of men in this modern America, if not world, have no idea what it means to be men. There’s something wrong with that. It indicates a problem in the former mindset of what it meant to be a man if the sudden absence of a factor, in this case: a subservient woman, could totally disrupt a man’s own identity. You see, I’m a feminist at heart — and men, that’s a good thing.
But what does this mean for our purposes? How do we men navigate this rocky road that seemingly teeters between sexism and a positive masculine self-identity?
You see, the answer lies in the title of this website. The Modern Gentleman. Real quick, go ahead and conjure up an image or a definition of a gentleman in your mind. What does it look like? Do you imagine a man pulling a chair out for a woman to sit down? Or maybe opening a door for her? Does it mean always putting women first and treating them like incapable little dolls?
The problem that we as men come into contact with is that the majority of our concept of being a gentleman comes from 1930s-1970s America, the very time in which women were growing so tired of male-dominance that they waged a Feminist Revolution, and a lot of great things have come from that movement. However, one down side is that men were left without a clear role in society. So where does that leave the men? Guys, I’ll give you a hint to where I’m going with this — actually, I’m just going to say it outright — if your idea of gentility revolves around how to treat women,
Forget about the women!
Gasp! Forsooth! Egads! Good Lord in Heaven!!! How dare you?!
Yes, forget about the women. As I said in the beginning, and in the title of this website, it’s all about the Modern and the Gentleman. Every living thing on earth changes and adapts and evolves according to its surroundings. Or it dies. Men, it’s high time to take the concept of a gentleman, re-define it, and bring it into the 21st Century, otherwise we can just kiss it goodbye right now.
The best thing we can do is redefine it for our own purposes. Stop making it all about the women. That’s not healthy for them, or for us. We live in an age in which men and women alike are able to pursue their own interests and create their own destiny. We have a woman and a man on the presidential ballot this year for the two main political parties, let that sink in, (and that is the extent of what I am saying about this election). So let’s embrace this truth from which there’s no escaping — and honestly, why would we want to? — and let’s focus on ourselves for awhile.
And that’s not sexist. That’s self-improvement.
Here’s the thing, we don’t need it for anyone other than ourselves. I think by now we’ve all heard the saying “you can’t love someone else until you love yourself.” Whether that’s true is another discussion, what it means for our purposes though is that whatever we do to better ourselves, it will not only increase our own self-worth, but other people will pick up on it too. If we better ourselves, we better our interactions with others, which can better others or inspire them to better themselves, and so on and so forth ad infinitum. But, we have to start with ourselves.
That’s what this site is all about. It is here to tackle what it means to be a gentleman in this modern world and how being a gentleman pertains to everyday life. It’s not to be pretentious or “hoity-toity” by any means. It’s for practical use and the betterment of its readers. I myself want to be a better man, a gentleman, a modern gentleman.
So, if you’re out of high school — especially if you’re out of college — and you’re still wearing predominantly graphic tees, sports paraphernalia, blue jeans and tennis shoes, this is for you. If you don’t feel like a man at heart when you’re out in the day to day world, this is for you. If you want to further develop and refine your own interests and pursue the constant betterment of yourself and your gender, this is for you. If you’re just looking to learn a few new tips or tricks or hobbies that fall within the realm of manliness, or as they pertain to what you believe it means to be a gentleman, this is for you. It’s for the boys, it’s for the men, it’s for the future gentlemen, it’s for the artists, it’s for the writers and the musicians, it’s for the businessmen, it’s for the laymen. This one’s for you.
It’s time to become a Modern Gentlemen, and this is our Society.