Megan B
Megan B
Nov 1 · 3 min read

I NEED HELP!!!

“Listen to counsel, receive instruction, and accept correction, That you may be wise in the time to come.”

‭‭PROVERBS‬ ‭19:20‬ ‭AMP‬‬

So many of us walk around with a storm of thoughts and emotions in our minds and hearts. I am one of those people. About 2 years ago, I decided to start journaling. It has been through prayer, writing and the counsel of my friends and my family, that I decided to go back to counseling. A lot of the things I write in my journal, my counselor is helping me sift through.

I know a lot of people, especially people of color, HATE, DESPISE and LOATHE counseling. Because they’re in your business or some say “it doesn’t work.” I truly believe counseling is just like any healthy relationship. You have to find someone who works for YOU. When I started my consistent journey to counseling, it was tough because I had to let go of how I saw some people and see them for the broken, hurt and bitter people that they are. We always hear people say “Hurt people, hurt people” and it’s a cool saying when someone else has been hurt, but when hurt knocks on our door it goes out the window. Through counseling I had to grow up, I had to forgive the father that wasn’t there, and the dad that I felt could’ve done somethings differently. I was made aware that my expectations of some people ultimately left me broken hearted and lonely. I was holding on to things like bitterness, anger, my inability to forgive certain people because I was waiting for an apology and how I dated/interacted with men. Parental rejection left me living out toxic patterns that had me bound, and I just wanted to be set free. Counseling opened my eyes to a side of me that I no longer want to hold on to because if I do, I would end up in a life long cycle of toxic repetitiveness.There is nothing wrong with vulnerability and that’s the only way counseling will work, which means you have to be willing to face the things that have happened. A lot of us stray away from vulnerability because we have been vulnerable with the wrong people and found ourselves deeper in hurt than we would have desired to be and can’t figure out the first step to healing. It also helps to have friends who are genuinely honest with you…that’s how I got back into counseling. Yes, I said back, because my first experience wasn’t the best, so I took a break when I actually should have requested a new counselor. It is ok to try new counselors until you find someone that works for you.

I once heard my Pastor say our biggest struggle is the story we tell ourselves. That’s not to say that your story is not valid, BUT sometimes we fail to see things from another person’s perspective because WE are the victims. Being the victim is comfortable and gives us the attention we want, but it doesn’t give us the freedom that we need.

Everyone is not ready for counseling because it will require work, vulnerability, tears, taking off the bandage and giving that wound some air. Everyone talks about healing, but healing hurts, and it hurts even more when you’re not ready to let go of the pain that has made you comfortable. So let me encourage you with this — I fully understand your journey, and letting go is never easy nor is healing, but the freedom you have after the process is well worth the it. 2019 has taught me to be comfortable being uncomfortable and to let go of the dead weight…. 2020 will see a new me and I pray the same for you. We have 2 months left in the year, I will challenge you to let go of your dead weight before the year is out & BE FREE!

    Megan B

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