As shared with me by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Divorce is hard — even if you’re the one who initiated it. And if you’re divorcing a narcissist, financial abuse is more common than not. Financial abuse can take many forms: Theft Fraud or scams Transferring your property, businesses, and…

And that you can implement today — When I started my healing journey from narcissistic abuse 10+ years ago, I had no idea where it would take me. Back then, I desperately feared I’d stay stuck forever, that nothing would ever get better. Fortunately, that wasn’t true. Look, let me give it to you straight. The change…

Anti-Hero tells the story of a narcissist victim — Have you heard it yet? The catchy song that catches your ear and tugs at your heart? I’m speaking, of course, of Taylor Swift’s new song, Anti-Hero. For fellow or former victims of narcissist abuse, it’s like she’s telling our story — from the inside out. Our external realities may…

The most effective way to break a strong trauma bond is to reverse-engineer it — Your trauma bond was created and strengthened by a narcissist. In many cases, you have trauma bonds with two or more narcissists. Though the narcissist was key to creating the trauma bond, breaking it has nothing to do with them. That is a good thing! …

I see a trauma bond in two parts — the part you can see and the part that is hidden. — I assume you’re talking about the part of the trauma bond that is visible, because almost no one knows about the part that is hidden and wreaking havoc for years, even decades to come. The visible trauma bond Once you are aware of the typical aspects of a trauma bond, it’s easy to see…

Picture the trauma bond as an iceberg when it’s dark. — At first, you can’t see it at all. You have no idea trauma bonds even exist, much less that you’ve been bonded and that your trauma bond is being strengthened each day. While you are in the dark, the trauma bond… · Blinds you to the fact that you’re in…

The simple answer? You become indifferent with these 4 steps — More than acting indifferent, becoming indifferent frees you from the reactivity common with a toxic relationship. More on that later… Remember, a reaction is a triggered neural pathway, a chemical reaction to a stimulus, that occurs before your logical, thinking brain is even aware. A response, on the other hand…

The short answer? Yes — The trauma bond between you and your abuser leads you to not realize you’re in an abusive relationship, to stay once you realize it, and to miss your abusive ex and the relationship even long after the relationship has ended. It’s not your fault. Your setup You didn’t know you were being…

The answer is a blessing in disguise — Look, to a covert narcissist, falling in love feels real. They don’t know anything else. It’s kind of like if your eyes see the sky as green, but you’ve been told your whole life what you see is blue, you think green is blue. Get it? Covert narcissists don’t do genuine The covert narcissist believes…