Their subconscious desires run the show — You feel you’ve given your partner everything they could possibly want. You’ve given them everything YOU want in a relationship. Love Compassion Attention Support Empathy You want to share your life with them. You want to grow old together. They seem to have a whole other set of wants and…

This question is fascinating on many levels. — A rebound relationship indicates the person is dealing with issues from a recent breakup. Often rebound relationships are intended to help one get over someone or move forward from that past relationship. The concept of a rebound relationship makes sense to a neurotypical person — even though it’s not an…

What should the victim expect next? — The victim of the narcissist is repeatedly abused throughout the duration of the relationship. As a result of this abuse, the victim will gradually lose their self-esteem, self-confidence, and sense of self-worth. They will develop physical, mental, and emotional symptoms they didn’t have prior to the relationship. …

Bucket terms like “crazy” and “mentally ill” are red flags that a disordered person is using them — For a few weeks now, we’ve been unpacking, one by one, the 11 Ways to Discern the Covert Narcissist Victim from the Covert Narcissist. This information is important for everyone, but especially those professionals (doctors, therapists, lawyers, guardians ad litem, pastors) who are tasked with helping others and preventing further…

How to identify this different flavor of the narcissist — White knight narcissists are a subset of covert narcissists that display more traits in common with overt narcissists than a typical covert narcissist. Say that fast three times. Sound confusing? Let’s start with narcissists in general Narcissists share some common characteristics. They may believe they are superior, special, entitled, and worthy of admiration and envy. They may be…

Learn to recognize these four go-to strategies — Narcissists are notorious for sharing lies, or as they call them, “untruths.” Their entire world is a made-up version of reality. None of it is real. That said, many believe they are their persona. They believe what they say is true. Between their lack of whole object relations and object…

When quitting just isn’t an option — Working for a narcissist is never easy. Sometimes it’s downright impossible. They take credit for your work, shift the goal posts so your work is never good enough, humiliate you in front of clients and co-workers, and triangulate you with your team. It’s enough to make you scream. And yet…

The often-invisible punishment with devastating effects — A covert narcissist punishes you as revenge for their narcissistic injury. This is often subconscious, meaning they do not consciously know what they are doing. This is Mr Hyde at his finest. Mr Hyde feels the covert narcissist’s persona has been threatened and is determined to annihilate that threat. What…

Your 6 innocent, relationship-building behaviors that provoke them — Covert narcissists are masters of punishment, often without you even being aware. Unlike malignant narcissists who want you to be painfully aware they are punishing you intentionally, delighting in your pain, covert narcissists are entirely satisfied by punishing you without you knowing. They use subtle, insidious methods and plausible deniability…