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Melissa Kalt, MD
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Mar 31

Six Surprising Ways to Heal Your Heart After Narcissistic Abuse

When I was in the thick of it, I thought I’d be forever broken — Having a narcissistic parent (though I didn’t know what narcissism was ’til my 40's) taught me not to trust anyone with my hopes, my dreams — the things that mattered to me. Sharing those things was a sure-fire way to end up feeling badly in the future. As a teenager…

Psychology

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Six Surprising Ways to Heal Your Heart After Narcissistic Abuse
Six Surprising Ways to Heal Your Heart After Narcissistic Abuse
Psychology

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·Mar 1

3 Quick Ways to Avoid Financial Abuse When Divorcing a Narcissist

As shared with me by a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Divorce is hard — even if you’re the one who initiated it. And if you’re divorcing a narcissist, financial abuse is more common than not. Financial abuse can take many forms: Theft Fraud or scams Transferring your property, businesses, and…

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3 Quick Ways to Avoid Financial Abuse When Divorcing a Narcissist
3 Quick Ways to Avoid Financial Abuse When Divorcing a Narcissist
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·Jan 27

One Thing Every Hopeless Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Needs to Know

And that you can implement today — When I started my healing journey from narcissistic abuse 10+ years ago, I had no idea where it would take me. Back then, I desperately feared I’d stay stuck forever, that nothing would ever get better. Fortunately, that wasn’t true. Look, let me give it to you straight. The change…

Psychology

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One Thing Every Hopeless Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Needs to Know
One Thing Every Hopeless Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Needs to Know
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·Nov 23, 2022

Is Taylor Swift Admitting She’s a Covert Narcissist?

Anti-Hero tells the story of a narcissist victim — Have you heard it yet? The catchy song that catches your ear and tugs at your heart? I’m speaking, of course, of Taylor Swift’s new song, Anti-Hero. For fellow or former victims of narcissist abuse, it’s like she’s telling our story — from the inside out. Our external realities may…

Psychology

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Is Taylor Swift Admitting She’s a Covert Narcissist?
Is Taylor Swift Admitting She’s a Covert Narcissist?
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·Nov 22, 2022

The Unbelievably Effective Way to Break a Strong Trauma Bond

The most effective way to break a strong trauma bond is to reverse-engineer it — Your trauma bond was created and strengthened by a narcissist. In many cases, you have trauma bonds with two or more narcissists. Though the narcissist was key to creating the trauma bond, breaking it has nothing to do with them. That is a good thing! …

Psychology

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The Unbelievably Effective Way to Break a Strong Trauma Bond
The Unbelievably Effective Way to Break a Strong Trauma Bond
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·Nov 21, 2022

How Did You Finally Break Your Insidious Trauma Bond with a Narcissist?

I see a trauma bond in two parts — the part you can see and the part that is hidden. — I assume you’re talking about the part of the trauma bond that is visible, because almost no one knows about the part that is hidden and wreaking havoc for years, even decades to come. The visible trauma bond Once you are aware of the typical aspects of a trauma bond, it’s easy to see…

Psychology

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How Did You Finally Break Your Insidious Trauma Bond with a Narcissist?
How Did You Finally Break Your Insidious Trauma Bond with a Narcissist?
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·Nov 19, 2022

What Does a Trauma Bond with a Narcissist Look Like?

Picture the trauma bond as an iceberg when it’s dark. — At first, you can’t see it at all. You have no idea trauma bonds even exist, much less that you’ve been bonded and that your trauma bond is being strengthened each day. While you are in the dark, the trauma bond… · Blinds you to the fact that you’re in…

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What Does a Trauma Bond with a Narcissist Look Like?
What Does a Trauma Bond with a Narcissist Look Like?
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·Nov 18, 2022

How Do You Avoid Reacting When a Narcissist Gets Under Your Skin?

The simple answer? You become indifferent with these 4 steps — More than acting indifferent, becoming indifferent frees you from the reactivity common with a toxic relationship. More on that later… Remember, a reaction is a triggered neural pathway, a chemical reaction to a stimulus, that occurs before your logical, thinking brain is even aware. A response, on the other hand…

Psychology

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How Do You Avoid Reacting When a Narcissist Gets Under Your Skin?
How Do You Avoid Reacting When a Narcissist Gets Under Your Skin?
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·Nov 16, 2022

Does the Trauma Bond Make You Want to Spy on Your Narcissist Ex?

The short answer? Yes — The trauma bond between you and your abuser leads you to not realize you’re in an abusive relationship, to stay once you realize it, and to miss your abusive ex and the relationship even long after the relationship has ended. It’s not your fault. Your setup You didn’t know you were being…

Psychology

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Does the Trauma Bond Make You Want to Spy on Your Narcissist Ex?
Does the Trauma Bond Make You Want to Spy on Your Narcissist Ex?
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·Nov 15, 2022

Can a Covert Narcissist Feel a Genuine, Positive Connection with Someone?

The answer is a blessing in disguise — Look, to a covert narcissist, falling in love feels real. They don’t know anything else. It’s kind of like if your eyes see the sky as green, but you’ve been told your whole life what you see is blue, you think green is blue. Get it? Covert narcissists don’t do genuine The covert narcissist believes…

Psychology

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Can a Covert Narcissist Feel a Genuine, Positive Connection with Someone?
Can a Covert Narcissist Feel a Genuine, Positive Connection with Someone?
Psychology

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Melissa Kalt, MD

Melissa Kalt, MD

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Solver of Unsolvable Problems/ Master Healer/ Physician/ Antifragile Narcissist Survival Expert/ Author/ Mother of 5. https://medium.com/@MelissaKalt/membership

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