Does a Narcissist Look for You in Their New Supply?
Or are you a distant memory?
To a narcissist, there is no “you.”
You are not experienced as a person, someone with hopes, dreams, and desires. You are not experienced as someone who has feelings which can be hurt.
You are an object — an object that serves the narcissist’s needs.
The narcissist needs narcissistic supply, and can get it in one of two ways.
- Praise, admiration, respect, validation, attention
- Devaluing others
The narcissist also needs to preserve their false self, their false narrative, their persona.
Your devaluation prompts your replacement.
Once they have devalued you to the point that your praise, admiration, respect, validation, and attention are less valuable to them than another’s, they will make that person their primary source of supply.
This happens even faster if they feel your devalued self is lowering their status and hurting their false narrative.
For example,
- They have gaslit you to the point you are confused and seem crazy.
- They have told their flying monkeys how weak and pathetic…
