How Can You Tell if a Narcissist is Grooming Another Victim?
More importantly, why do you care?
Let me give it to you straight. Narcissists are always grooming another victim — or rather, victims — plural.
Only, the narcissist doesn’t consider it grooming. Much of their behavior is driven by subconscious fear. They are just doing what comes naturally.
Narcissists are driven by two subconscious needs
- Narcissistic supply
- Preserving their false version of reality
So why are they grooming other victims when they have you?
The narcissist is subconsciously afraid of losing the narcissistic supply you provide and will secure other sources.
The narcissist is subconsciously afraid of the death of their false persona, the idealized image of themselves they so desperately show the world. They will do anything to prevent that from happening.
To manage these needs, the narcissist will groom several sources of backup narcissistic supply and groom flying monkeys to support their false narrative. In many cases, the flying monkeys also provide narcissistic supply.
