8 Ways Covert Narcissists Mess with Your Head
Blindspots you can’t afford to miss
Covert narcissists are extremely dangerous.
They not only mess with your head, but they convince others to mess with your head until you’re the only one left standing. At that point, you give up. You assume you are crazy, that everyone must be right.
The invisible set up
The love bomb: The covert narcissist love bombs in a different way than more overt narcissists. They are vulnerable, share feelings, talk about painful things. You think, “Wow! This is incredible. I’ve never had a relationship so deep.” The covert narcissist thinks like you, shares your love languages, and inspires compassion. You don’t know how he ended up so normal when he had such a terrible family, ex, etc.
The façade: Covert narcissists are the most friendly, charming, likable people around. They help others. They’re funny. They’re great conversationalists and storytellers. Everyone LOVES them (except their targets).
The passive aggression: It’s the “jokes” or “teases” at first. Then the more obvious putdowns. The covert narcissist encourages you to make a decision, then punishes you for whatever you decide (there is no right answer). The sabotage is extreme and impossible to prove. They thrive on…
