How Do You Apologize to a Narcissist?
Take accountability and self-responsibility for what you can.
Like forgiveness, the act of apologizing is for healing you. It is the opportunity to acknowledge what you did/said, apologize, and when appropriate, repair the situation.
This apology has nothing to do with the narcissist. It is about healing you.
The part you can own (your word, thought, or action) is out of integrity with the truth of who you are. You are not an angry, vengeful, short-tempered being. You are Divine.
Offering an apology gives you an opportunity to forgive yourself and come back into wholeness. It is also incredibly empowering.
I remember coming home from work after a long day about 10 years ago. My workday as a doctor was always chaotic. Patients every 15 minutes. No time to pee, much less eat. Rushing to get home for dinner and evening kid activities. (With five kids, it was always busy.) I had a lot of push me/pull me emotions. I LOVED my children and couldn’t wait to see them. On the other hand, my ex often created some sort of chaos and sabotage, which was just too much to bear.
I got home shortly before my father picked my 13-year-old up for her riding lesson. She couldn’t find her riding boots and was wandering around looking at the ceiling.
