What Makes a Covert Narcissist Regret Leaving You?

Will they want you back?

I answered this question on Quora two days ago. Today I would write an entirely different answer.

It’s not that my first pass was wrong.

You see, my understanding is evolving. Today I see the answer through another lens.

Here’s my initial response

The real question is what makes a covert narcissist regret leaving the narcissistic supply you provided? That is the harsh reality.

The covert narcissist sees you as a source of resources.

• If you provide financial resources, they see you as a bank.
• If you provide home management services like cooking and cleaning, they see you as the maid.
• If you take care of your children, they see you as the nanny.

Above all else, they see you as a source of narcissistic supply.

A grandiose narcissist uses power and control, flashy cars and clothes, and intense relationships to evoke awe, respect, admiration, and jealousy from others. This is their preferred form of supply. They also get supply from devaluing people.

A covert narcissist receives supply in a totally different way.