Why is a Covert Narcissist Terrified of You After the Discard?

You are the victim, not the abuser.

Melissa Kalt, MD
3 min readJan 17, 2022
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Your relationship with a covert narcissist has ended.

Regardless of who initiated the discard, it wasn’t pretty.

Maybe the covert narcissist left you abruptly with no notice and no warning, leaving you struggling to understand what happened. Or maybe you decided you’d finally had enough and mustered up every ounce of strength you could find to leave.

Neither was easy, yet for the first time in a long time, you feel an inkling of peace.

You want to let go of your anger, your hurt, your confusion.

You want to heal, to feel like you again, to feel whole, instead of fragmented into many parts.

You want to put the relationship behind you and move forward.

The covert narcissist does not feel peace. They feel terror.

In fact, there is nothing scarier to a narcissist than losing all narcissistic supply and having their false reality, their house of cards, fall as their mask is ripped off for all the world to see.

These fears, this narcissistic script, is subconscious. The covert narcissist is not aware of their desperate…

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Melissa Kalt, MD

Leadership Catalyst/Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Specialist/ Solver of Unsolvable Problems/Master Healer/ Entrepreneur/ Author/ Speaker/ Mother of 5.