Excellent perspective! I’m actually a marriage and family therapist, and I think this is one of the most well written descriptions of long-term marriages/relationships I’ve read. Maybe you should consider the counseling/therapy field; as a profession I mean! Actually, couples counseling is probably my least favorite aspect of the profession and I’d willing take a disfunctional family (aka “any family”) over a relunctant couple that usually comes for some sort of permission to get separated. Some make genuine efforts to repair their relationships; but it takes work and communication. I think far too many people assume marriage involves a romance-filled future with their ‘soul-mate’ etc. and they don’t consider the work and dedication involved. In reality the infatuation period of most relationships is approx 6 months; then people tend to see one another more clearly (imperfections and all). Marriage should be practical; and as you put it so well in your writing, relationships are constantly changing. As your comfort level grows with your spouse/partner, so does your deep understanding of them and your history together. I have yet to meet someone who hasn’t went through a ‘rough patch’ in their relationship; myself included. Marriage is a reality, not a Nicholas Sparks novel.
I really enjoyed your writing and look forward to reading more of your work!