I don’t have a threshold, because I simply don’t care. And to be honest, a threshold is ridiculous. It says more about yourself than the other person.

A number only matters to people who feel that it has something to do with them.

I mean, you basically just said that in your comment “But If I found out a woman I was dating had basically slept with half the town I was living in I’d be pretty unimpressed.”

First question: How would you find out she slept “with half the town”? You’d either ask or she’d have a reputation of being the “town whore” — which probably wouldn’t let you date her in the first place. I doubt she would come up to and say “oh hey honey, before I forget, I slept with half the town.”

Second question: Why does her sexlife has to impress you? This, I think, is the crux of the mattter: Not because the number of sexual partners has anything to do with the quality of your relationship, but because it has to do with your personal definition of morality and a virtuous woman, and whether or not you lacked “good judgement”.

We all have a set of standards or dos and dont’s and if a treshold is part of yours that’s fine and who am I to judge — but don’t make this the womans issue, when it really is only yours. And you guys may protest all you want, but it is a (for lack of a better word) typically male thing to do to label a woman a slut and say “oh, she slept with so many guys”, when the actual problem is not that she slept with “so many” guys, but your fear of not being and feeling special enough when you’re with that woman.

Man is ruled by ego and for some weird reason a womans sexlife seems to be an issue for many men.

Oh, and how many of you who read this think “I bet she slept with a lot of guys….like…a LOT….!”?