Before you skip over what I am about to reply with, know that you’re article challenged me to think and subjectively examine life from its incredible number of angles.
Pointedly, I came to the same conclusions about life — The mind blowing piece is that I related entirely opposite than you. Let me explain…
Let me first start by clearing up some facts about the game of chess and the rules of life so that we unassailably agree about this:
In chess, you and I do not choose the essential guideline of chess; that is to say that white goes first, queen goes on color, or we each own 8 pawns for three. To me, those guidelines represent the rules of life. Without the rules of a game, there is no game. More pointedly speaking these guidelines are like the “parameters of life”. The things by which we all inevitably (and equally) experience and make up life. The rest is uniquely what you make it.
As you point later on in your article, you were always seeking an opponent in life; that person you threw your responsibility at, justified yourself, and ultimately held on to your ego. Tetris obviously is single player like a game of solitaire. RELIEF!!
To me, that’s one way to look at it. I challenge you to a game of chess.
In Tetris, you shift the given blocks in hopes to make a line more than miss one. Each block that falls would simply either work or not. However, luckily you know what the next block life’s gonna drop you. That changes the rules. Anyway…
Unlike Tetris, where there are/or is very limited capacity to learn about you, learn about life, and your relationship. A block, shaped, and landed.
Instead of cutting out as many learning curves and opportunities by picking a game that, in essence, gives you more control (didn’t know if you noticed that); why not learn more about something from someone. Or maybe surprise yourself and others learn from you.
Chess, unlike Tetris, is very much like life in different eyes. I mean, look. In my experience, life presents us with lessons as we grow and by learning that lessons PURPOSE, we mature and never have the same conundrum again. Unless we take the time to slow down and analyze our present position, life will dish out same lesson. Remember when you first started playing chess and there was that one jerk who did the 3 move checkmate? Yeah… lame. At the same time it’s a prime example of what I mean. Until we learn from our experience (good or bad), until we take away what’s important and apply it to our next experience, the same pop quiz is gonna surprise you. And trust me. Life’s got time.
(1) You’re only opponent in life truly is yourself. In Tetris, you’re the only player fighting a game which tells you you’re gonna lose and therefore resulting in a high pressure attempt to lose later than the last same round to feel like you’ve advanced.
My (1) Stop fighting. Period. If you fight, you lose. Lose a million things I can think of. Lose time, lose you, lose mindfulness to the present. Lose life’s deeper nectar. GO WITH LIFE’S FLOW. A game of chess takes on a whole new light when two come together and enter the game for its journey (with all it’d ebs and flows)… it’s outcome is a win win and it’s unassailable. Who won? Who cares. We both did.
(2) Play life with dignity and integrity and befriend your opponent; befriend life. There’s even a chess game made for 4.
(3) My main point, above all else is something I have learned from years of watching my mother mash Gameboy buttons on Tetris Level 23 (OOOHHHHHHH snap. That’s crazy). At the same time it’s seriously a crazy way to live life. Ironically, she Tetris’d her way through life until she got stuck. She lives on repeat to this day, 26 years later. Life doesn’t speed up. It only appears faster because it dubs you responsible and gives you more responsibility (and freedom). Truth is Tetris is terrible because it doesn’t show you how and when to let go.
I unassailably learn every chess game. I enjoy adapting and maneuvering what life dishes out by simply slowing down and separating what’s in my control, what’s not, and what the difference looks like.
Letting the opposing side move their pieces freely within the guidelines.
(4) By accepting that which we can’t change, recognizing that which we can, and the differences between them makes the pressure valve labeled “RESPONSIBILITY” release. It releases and give US the control by which how fast we want to exist.
Are you living life in the HOV Lane via Mario Kart? Are you looking just for the bare necessities of life?. You get to choose.
I really enjoyed your article. It really gave me gratitude. Thank you for that. Before I go play some chess I want to say that I think the best part about life happened when I recognized that barely anything in this world is one way or the other. More than 95% of life isn’t black and white.
I’m glad to have the opportunity to exist in a world of color.