Finding Center

Many moons ago when I was in the glory of my teenage years I signed up for dance classes and stayed committed to them all the way through to college.

This was before the theatre bug had truly bit and I was still exploring different interests.

I was reminded of my classes the other day when I was meeting with a young woman who was about to embark on her career as a performer who had just gotten out of school and she was concerned that her first few weeks out were nothing but auditions and in her words “that can’t be all there is to this right?”

The problem with most arts and entertainment education is that you’re taught to be the best technician you can possibly be. Schools everywhere make it a point to give their actors, writers, dancers, musicians, etc. the best training they can and then…

They send them out into the world to get picked.

The problem with this model, of course, is that success in this instance depends on something that the artist has no control over.

So they go from audition to audition in the hopes that someone will choose them for their work and get frustrated when it doesn’t work out.

Thought Leadership often follows the same path.

I see plenty of talented people who have amazing ideas who run around trying to find the person who will choose them to shine in the spotlight. Sometimes they even pay these people thousands of dollars based on the hope that they will be chosen.

So why was I reminded of my dance classes when thinking of all of this?

There’s a concept known as finding center which basically means as the dancer you find your center of gravity so that you can perform the dance moves without falling over.

If you don’t find your center you’ll lose your balance in the middle of a turn, or miss the landing of a jump, etc.

The important thing here is that you focus first on what you CAN control

And that is what I told this young woman and what I tell most people I speak to in the world of Thought Leadership.

Whether someone “picks you” depends on hundreds of different factors that are out of your control so you don’t want to base all your efforts on being “good enough” to be chosen.

You want to find your center and base them on things you CAN control.

Like how you deliver your message.

How you manage your relationships.

What you choose to talk about.

If you focus on the things you can control not only will you have no problem when things don’t go your way, you’ll stand out from all of the other people who are jamming themselves through the same door.

Don’t forget there are windows.

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Find your center.

The world needs your message.


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