I want a friend like that…..
Hello from Riviera Maya, Mexico where I’m speaking to the top 25 financial advisors in the country. This trip has gotten me thinking about friendship. I bet many of you are still not best friends with your best friend from kindergarten. We grow up. We grow apart. We get influenced by the world and the people in closest proximity to us. We leave our hometown in search of something bigger and we just end up attracting new people into our lives.
In Bronnie Ware’s book “The Five Regrets of the Dying,” Bronnie outlined five big regrets people had in the last twelve weeks of their lives. One of those regrets was, “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.” A good friend is a coach, a counselor, and a voice of reason in life. They are a person that loses all pre-judgment, sees you at your best and worst, and accepts you not for who they want you to be but who you actually are.
A good authentic relationship has three main components to it:
1. Accessibility- You are never too busy for good friends and easily accessible when they want to celebrate or recover from a life blow.
2. Availability- You are “emotionally available” to spend time together working through challenges in life that take time, energy, and creativity.
3. Accountability- A good friend will help you avoid the vicious cycle of good intention, failure to follow through, and ensuing guilt. They will call you on your fluff.
Find you four good friends who will always have your back and you can turn to at any time and nurture and nourish each other. Don’t regret this one on your death bed. A good friend can put it all in perspective, talk you off the ledge of bad decisions, and walk you through some of life’s greatest heartbreaks. They will also be there to celebrate some of your greatest success stories.