What is it, and why I want you to know

I am somewhat successful. I am a father to two beautiful children, a fiance to my soul mate, and a senior manager within healthcare. I own my home, I have my own car, and I am lucky enough not to have money troubles. I have all of this and I am 32 years old.

I’ll be the first to say I am fortunate to be in this position.

But, there is something that sits below the surface. Something that not everyone knows and something that some people will never know. I am depressed and have been for over two decades.

Like all types of OCD, ‘pure-o’ has compulsions, too.

If you were asked to picture in your mind someone with OCD, what would be the vision you see? Someone washing their hands repeatedly? Maybe, it’s someone continuously flicking a lightswitch? Possibly, someone rearranging objects so that they are ‘just right’?

The majority would probably lean towards the person washing their hands repeatedly, trying to make their hands clean of any germs which could harm them.

It sounds very cliche, and it is because OCD reaches so much wider than this.

What Is OCD

The International Classification of Diseases, 10th edition, defines OCD as:

Obsessional thoughts: distressing ideas, images, or impulses that enter…

Men have been part of the problem for too long; now it’s time to become part of the solution.

Do you know what it’s like to do a job and get 80% of what you should be paid? No? Ask one of your female colleagues.

A PayScale report in 2020 found that women on average earn $0.81 for every $1 a man is paid. To put that into perspective, if a man were to stop working on the 23rd October each year, they would make the same amount of money as a woman makes in an entire year.

Since 2015, when PayScale undertook their first report, women earned $0.74 for every $1 a man was paid. In five years…

What can a university faculty in 1965 teach you about entrepreneurship?

Do you need to have started the Amazon empire to be a successful entrepreneur? What about creating Microsoft? How about building Apple?

There's no denying, Bezos, Gates, and Jobs are all exceptional entrepreneurs. Their names will live long beyond you and me and rightly so, they’re the definition of the saying “once in a generation”.

But, do you need to be a businessperson or wealthy beyond all comprehension to be a successful entrepreneur? I don’t think so — there’s so much to learn away from the world of money; you just have to look in the right places.

I have…

Don’t make emotional decisions — put your thinking into perspective

There are thousands of reasons why you might hate your job, but they fall into two groups: the job or you. It’ll likely be a combination of the two as life and work often intertwine.

You’ll find people make the decision that they hate their job and see the only solution is to quit. No — never do this!

Yes, it might be right to look for a new job, but have you taken the time to figure out whether it’s the job or you? If it’s you, you may be able to address the issues and find a way…

Grow as a leader — motivate the majority and the rest will follow

My first venture into leadership nearly cost me my career.

I was to be responsible for bringing a team together to deliver one of the most ambitious projects my organization had seen. I was to head up a group of healthcare specialists. I knew what I wanted to do.

On my first day on the job, I called a meeting. I didn’t think to prep in advance; I knew what I was going to say. I pictured myself giving an impassioned speech that would be met with stunned silence. They would be in shock from what they’d heard, a genius…

A piece of advice for every year at work

On average, a full-time employee in the United States will work over 1,700 hours a year. Over ten years, that’s over 17,000 hours!

In that time, you will experience so many different things that you’ll struggle to remember 10% of them. Unfortunately, it’s not the most important 10% of experiences that you’ll remember. Even if you don’t recall them all, they will shape you to some extent, but only a few will be for the better.

From my first ten years in the workplace, I’d call myself successful. I’ve consistently secured promotions, my current salary is 5x my first salary…

Empathy is the most important “soft” skill you will need in your career

Think back to a time in your career when you had a boss that you thought was great. You may be able to pinpoint exactly the reason why you loved to work for them. I guarantee that I know what makes them so great: empathy.

The workplace often overlooks emotional intelligence. I’d say it’s a hangover from a bygone era where workers didn’t have rights, and industry was about going hard without a thought of the consequences.

Slowly, organizations are starting to catch up to the world outside the floor to ceiling windows of the high rise offices in the…

Mental health is hard. Owning it is even harder.

I hate being bipolar it’s awesome — Kanye West

Let me say this first; I do not have bipolar. I have depression, anxiety and OCD. They’re nothing alike.

Kanye West and I have mental health issues, a love of rap and love of Kanye West in common. That’s where our commonalities end.

In 2018, Kanye West released an album “YE” in which he openly raps for the first time about his diagnosis of bipolar disorder. On the record, he called bipolar his “superpower”.

When I first heard Kanye say it, I sat back in my chair, stunned. “Wow, a superpower”…

Pessimism doesn’t just mean negativity; they have qualities others don’t

Both optimists and pessimists contribute to society. The optimist invents the aeroplane, the pessimist the parachute. — George Bernard Shaw

I’m a pessimist. I’ve been told countless times. What can I say, I’m a Programme Manager, it’s what I do best.

Hearing it at the start of my career was tough, though. All I thought was that people were telling me that I was negative. It knocked my confidence.

A few years into my career, after being bashed about, I started to feel disillusioned with my job. My co-workers were seeing me as a naysayer and quite rightly so. I…

Mike Martin

Father of two — Fiancé — Senior healthcare manager — Mental health advocate — Eager to learn, grow and share my experiences

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