Objectification, Misogyny, & Rape Culture is never your fault
~ 25% rape victimization among women in college campuses.
~ 9 of 10 women who experience some form of sexual assault will know their offender.
Slut-shaming, misogyny, sexism. All seen in different forms in a generic college environment. These are actual reflections of a man, whoops, a boy’s unstable, insecure ego.
Whether they are frat parties, taking pictures of girls without their consent after you bring her home, speaking with “i’m going to f*ck the shit out of her”, “get that pussy”, “f*ck it, it’s college. Hook up”
Now there is no problem in hooking up, if it is a mutual consensual interaction.
The concept that there is “consent” pertaining to the woman giving permission to a man to engage in this sort of interaction,
is in itself outlining the root of rape culture and the power complex.
It is a normal interaction as long as you are not utilizing sexual activity as a means of objectifying and lowering another’s respect level, in the process of unconsciously increasing yours.
Because that will gradually help you partake in the cycle of power and abuse.
Seeking and gaining validation while attempting to leech from another’s.
Validation is only needed when at the root, one is dealing with internal insecurities.
Looking at women as objects casually moving from one to the next at college parties, concerts, and in general.
These are all means of: objectification, fetishization, exotification, misogyny, patriarchy, and sexism that these young boys have grown up with.
In other words a closed, fixed, unstable, and patriarchally egoistic mindset.
This is what leads them to place “expectations” solely on the woman in their lives. And not expectations they must set and withhold for themselves.
It is entitlement and sex superiority they feel when a woman calls them out, and they feel the need to label her as a “whore, slut, bitch”.
Because instead of this “object” validating your ego, she is instead questioning it. Putting it in a vulnerable place.
So what proceeds is a quick frenzy of attitudes and actions utilized to seek self-validation.
Why not put her ‘in check’, put her in her ‘place’, and use barbaric humorous language as a means to name-call her so that before she can hurt your fragile, superficially high, [yet unstable] ego that is controlled by daily circumstances rather than an internal stability.. try hurting hers instead.
Even using humor when speaking of women, is highlighting ingrained sexist prejudices that you are attempting to cover while being seen as “not serious”.
That will give that rage a permanent solution, right?
Wrong. It temporarily eases the problem and stabilizes the ego. While, leaving the stem of your problem still rooted within.
Masculinity? It wouldn’t be a question of it, if one were secure enough with themselves to not feel the need to suppress another sex with emotional insecurity to feel in control and dominating.
Question her, while in reality the questioning is with your own integrity and character development.
Entitlement. Unstable ego. Emotional instability. This is what causes threats to be made. The urges of feeling the need to “suppress” emotions or feelings of yours and others because you believe that to not be interconnected with masculinity, nor security.
But maybe being able to navigate through these emotions is a sign of accepting vulnerability as a means to gain higher security.
If after reading this you feel anger, resentment, and offended then you are part of the problem perpetuating this unequal power dynamic.