Beautiful and so relevant. I also feel, that is why children need to be not given consequences, time outs, prizes etc. This hinders in the development of their internal locus point from where they can judge a situation. Shame is the outsider’s point of view. Developing conscience takes time. Sometimes decades. So meanwhile, love, affection, compassion is the only way we can strengthen this internal locus point. I love what you wrote here. Reading this amazing book called the “General theory of Love”. It will tell you the science behind our emotions, reactions. You would love it!