You don’t get to invalidate my experience. You don’t get to tell me why your words don’t hurt. You don’t get to add your voice to the culture of toxic sexism that tries to tell us it’s our fault because we didn’t take “responsible precautions.” YOU are, even in your own suffering, blaming the victim! You blamed yourself for not locking your door.
The only illogic and lack of reason is in your head. When you shared your pain, I did NOT share out your blame with your abuser. YOU did nothing wrong. But, you internalized the blame. You will not even recognize your own internalized delusion.
My response when you shared your pain was #IBelieveYou. It’s tragic you cannot accord the same compassion and humanity to every other #MeToo survivor. Again — just STOP!