Rules To Live By
Wisdom is such a cool thing. It does not belong just to one person or one social, economic group. Not one race or religion or political party or even gender (sorry to my wonderful women friends that will question that last statement). Wisdom does not belong to the sage older generation or the young, just finding their voice, although I think of those times fondly and truthfully I thought I did know it all. However, I was willing at that young age to stay open to “possibly” learn from my elders and learn I did. Now I hope I can pass on lessons to the young, the old and all those in between. And I still stay open to the lessons I might learn from others.
One of my favorite learning’s was the saying “When the student is ready, the teacher appears”. How true it is that the lessons we need come at just the right times when we are ready, and they sometimes come from unexpected teachers.
Over the past few months, I have had ongoing dialogue with an amazing young man I know. As we discussed life and all the things that go along with it, he would occasionally drop a pearl of wisdom in my mind for processing. I came to know that no matter what the situation, Derek would have a comment filled with wisdom that I felt was beyond his years. I believe he is an old soul here to guide those that hear his message. He may not agree with my description of him yet he has been a wonderful teacher for me. Remember, “when the student is ready, the teacher appears.” I have learned that all the pearls of wisdom are his “10 rules to live by.” With his permission, I share them here for perhaps your growth. #1 stays in that position always, but all the rest are interchangeable to meet the needed situation.
I believe these are a great foundation for practicing and owning the self- responsibility I wrote about in my “Body and Soul” article. I am personally embracing #3 currently. Enjoy! And thank you, Derek, for always living #5.
D’s 10 “rules” to live by
Rule #1: If I cannot change something that is bothering me through my direct action, don’t worry about it.
Rule #2: Love your friends and family but don’t let them run your life.
Rule #3: There are no bad days, only bad moments. Let them go.
Rule #4: It’s ok if people think you’re an asshole. They haven’t taken the time to see who you are. Let them figure it out.
Rule #5: Your attitude affects all others, make sure they’re amazed by it.
Rule #6: Take time for yourself. You are the most important person in your life.
Rule #7: If you don’t like what someone does to you, tell them. If they don’t change, they do not deserve to be part of your life.
Rule #8: You cannot possibly control life, stop trying and enjoy it.
Rule #9: Live up to your expectations; no one else’s.
Rule #10: You will not like everyone you meet, but you can make an impact on everyone’s life.
Carly Monteith thinks a lot about writing and writes a lot about thinking. Any day of the week, in the Pacific Northwest at the base of Mt Rainier, you will hear the clicking of a keyboard or the scratching of a fountain pen; and sometimes the sizzle of brain cells!
When not writing she is helping others to create and live their own life story, helping to heal grief as a Grief Mentor and teaching college classes on journal writing.