The Pride Month — Level Red
The first step to love is acceptance and understanding!
Level Red focuses on the first step toward acknowledging ‘Pride’. We threw a basic question to our community members and kept our ears open to listen to them.
And this is what our people had to say, and we kept the discussion rolling. Here’s a peak into what turned out to be an amazing starter!
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Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer is usually known as LGBTQ. These are the different types of gender. The one simple thing everyone has to understand is that Sex and gender are different. Sex is identified on the basis of biological or physical features when we are born. Whereas gender is something that a person identified as or wanted to. 🌈 — Aysha Rafiya
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The term sex is generally used to refer to a binary of being either female or male as denoted by attributes that comprise biological sex. Gender, on the other hand, is meant to refer to the various socially constructed roles, behaviors, expressions, and identities of girls, women, boys, men, and gender-diverse people. — Shyam
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This is more or less what my understanding is too. But the red color speaks so much about the question too. We are all red, we are all blood, all human lives. The correlation with the color is exactly what it is all about. — Hajara Fida
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Gender refers to the socially constructed roles, behaviors, expressions, and identities of girls, women, boys, men, and gender-diverse people. It influences how people perceive themselves and each other, how they act and interact, and the distribution of power and resources in society. Sex refers to a set of biological attributes in humans and animals. It is primarily associated with physical and physiological features including chromosomes, gene expression, hormone levels and function, and reproductive/sexual anatomy. — Fabz
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Gender is chosen by the individual whereas sex is chosen for u by someone even before you are aware of yourself. Hence the acceptance issue once the child turns to an adult when children choose another gender of them. — Deepa Saji
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Guys, may I ask something?
Why is speaking about Gender and Sex taboo? 😮
I know it’s a silly question, but I’ve been always confused to see how we react to something like this.
Any ideas? — Rizwan
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We lived with something like,
‘don’t talk about this in front of people, ‘this is not a topic worth discussing’ also this is how we should live with so many stereotypes of dos and don’ts, this is how a perfect person should be we live in a very conservative society where we are not ready to accept changes easily. Remember there are flat earth peoples even now. — Aysha Rafiya
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We have wrong ideas about sex, gender, and related topics that have been imposed on us in our early stages of growth. So even when we realize the truth of these matters, even when we develop an open mind towards these things, the process of unlearning and relearning could be a slow one. And the truth to be told on matters related to gender and sexuality spectrum there is an abundance of information. Maybe it is because of the lack of proper sex education, personally, I get confused and lost sometimes when I try to learn about LBTQIA+. — Mariya
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I think it’s basically cos of the society we live in… mindset of people… parents don’t talk about to children. Teachers won’t talk to students!!! Our people only made it so complicated to talk about it in front of others. When we talk what we give is wrong ideas or fantasized answers. — Nayeema
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I’ve seen a video, probably you would all have. A kid asks his parents what sex and the parents struggle to explain it to him. In the end, the kid shows a school form where he has to fill the sex column and asks what among that should he write there.
That made me think a lot. The whole ‘oh it should not be talked about in society has bigger issues than we think. Especially once we get married, I doubt how many of us would know about such topics in detail. And it does make a big deal in the relation, as said in the Great Indian Kitchen when she questions about it.
Also, one thing I think is, that people don’t find any issue in asking ‘why aren’t you getting pregnant when they do consider the whole process a taboo. 😂
All said, changes are happening, and can’t be anymore happier — Hajara Fida
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When you ask me two years before about LGBTQ, I have no idea about this
There is an interesting story that happened 2 years back
We were celebrating my best friend’s birthday and we bought a cake which was a random choice and I am not particular about the flavor of the cake the only thing that matters to me was the aesthetics of the cake and I saw a rainbow-colored cake so I bought that
And we came to the place where we are planned and when I opened the cake one of my friends is very much excited about the cake and asked him “man why you are so excited after all it’s her birthday?”
He replied “Man LGBTQ?”
I didn’t get him and when I stand like a dumbass, he explained to me about this LGTQ
L denotes lesbian
G denotes Gay
T denotes Transgenders
Q denotes Queer and Questioning
And that day we discussed a lot about this and all I could understand was that they are the most underprivileged people around us. They are suffering to open up even to their best friends about their problems because they fear our society and our conditioning.
Once I had a conversation with a trans guy and he said: “being alone is fine they can manage to an extent but treating them as worthless toxic being is something that breaks them into pieces”.
Time for everyone including me to break the wall of conditioning.
Have a wonderful day guys. — Azhar
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I was not aware of these things till Connectree put this topic for the month. Kudos team. Have a great day all — Asna Sajid
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It’s taboo because people know only one meaning of sex (the action) and hence get confused when kids ask this question. I have seen small children blushing when they hear this word. Why? What do they know?
And I don’t think many people have understood what gender is.
Whom to blame…?? Did we learn it in school.? Most of the time we got ideas from our peer group who were as ignorant as we were.
Change can begin in our own homes.
Having open conversations with our children/younger siblings and educating even our parents might help.
Being a counselor, I can tell you this, giving sex education to our own kids will help establish a great connection with them. They will feel more confident and connected to their parents.
And age to start…? Right from when they start communicating. So be mindful while talking so that we are only serving what they can receive.
Always stop at a point where their questions end.
They will again come back with deeper questions as they grow old and develop the trust in us that we WON’T LIE. — Deepa Saji
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Because of social, cultural, and family conditioning? — Nielouphar
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Deep-rooted patriarchy and its cultural/traditional backing made it impossible to have such healthy conversations.
Anything even remotely related to the expression of sexuality or gender, even menstruation, is considered to be shameful and marriages here are merely financial deals. — Jahan
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I feel sad and angry when people tell bad about them. They are also human beings… and deserve respect and peace like us. They are no different from us. That’s what I believe🙏🏻
Because we are taught like that… or we see people acting weird or saying weird things about the LGBTQIA community…
It’s not something to be hidden or not discussed. It should be taught to the younger generation… this should not be a topic that should be alien to our kids. it’s my opinion. — Minn
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I think we people made our minds, we ourselves said that certain things were taboo for our own reasons because when our civilization started people celebrated those things. — Gayathri Ram
That’s a lot of information at a primary level! What is your answer to ‘Level Red’?
Hajara Fida (@wordsovervoices)
