Good for you, but is this the usual response of such experience? As you will recognise from your cognitive science education, we learn through adaptation, and many will rationalise their experiences as a form of normality. Thus, although many will desire a better outcome, the conditioning of experience usually dooms us to repeat behaviour. Explains, for example, why girls in an environment of spousal abuse tend to find themselves in a similar situation when they become women.

You are perhaps ironically making a very individualistic statement in your determination to reject the normal response and experience of your peers (other divorced children).

Yet your salvation may be in finding other emotionally supportive fathers, to learn and recondition yourself (a better community to belong to).