We see all those trending hashtags on social media, trends on fashion blogs, fashionistas’ pictures and and all that hype going on in the world. It’s affecting the way people think and act. Wherever I go, the majority of people are concerned about their outer image and how strangers will perceive them through words they said, how they look and where they hangout and who they hangout with.
I’m not saying any of that is wrong, I just want to share some thoughts I gathered in the past couple of years and maybe the way out or just a pointer possibly towards the right direction for you and myself.
I believe that all that’s a result of the misuse of media. People, including myself forgot who they are and are just trying so hard to be something they are not. Media is probably the most powerful tool in world and affects us big time.
See, I’m almost 25 years old now and I feel like I have been in a coma all my life and just woke up last year or something, I have been asking myself this question: “Where have you been and what have you been doing for all these years?” (I’m sure someone will relate to this)
I’ll tell you what I’ve been doing..I’ve been trying to prove myself to society by doing what the world tells me to do, it’s just so wrong — doing whatever it takes to be “cool”, getting a degree from one of the “elite universities”, getting a job that people would be impressed with when you tell them what you did. What a fucking waste man! I barley ever got to choose what I wanted to do in my life, I didn’t have goals to accomplish and dreams just started fading away and eventually I just stopped dreaming, completely.
Even as I’m writing this piece, I say maybe I wasn’t put in the right environment or didn’t have the right people around me, but deep inside me, I know that its all on me. I read and hear about people’s success stories, people that came out of nothing but worked hard to acheive what they wanted, and eventually they got where they wanted to be in life.
I’ll cut to the chase. It is never too late! Life is all about improvement, being better than you were yesterday, being better than you were a minute ago if possible. Working hard and focusing on yourself and dreaming big, structured thinking and planning is key to achieving what you want in life. Long-term and Short-term goals are what you want to focus on, what I mean by a long-term goal is a goal you want to achieve in a year or more, short-term goals are goals you would achieve in a day or a month. Set to yourself deadlines and do not rest till you meet that deadline!
A great book I read called ‘The Power of Habit’ made me realize that I can change the way I act on a daily basis.
A simple example of what I mean:
I wake up everyday and spend 30–45 minutes scrolling through Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, BBC News and any other apps I find in my way. When I was reading the book I thought: “OK, this sounds pretty easy, getting rid of the bad habits in my life by replacing them with other habits and seeing rewards”. It wasn’t. It was harder than I thought, I still struggle with the old habits I had, but I think that it’s extremely normal, if it happens to you, keep fighting and don’t give up! I have been doing the same thing for the past at least 4–5 years and I can’t just change overnight, it comes with hard work and persistence. So now instead of spending my time on social media every morning, I go out for longer runs, I watch tutorials, I make myself and save money..you get what I’m saying.
Now back to goals — I think if we start adjusting the way we think and thinking in a goal oriented manner and keep persisting on achieving that mindset, eventually we will have it. That is what I am working on right now, getting out of my comfort zone and working on myself as hard as I possibly can. If you feel like you’re in the same situation, I suggest you do the same, it’s never too late to “pivot”.