“Me and my ex are best friends”…
I guarantee some of you clicked on that heading like ….
Now the burning question:
“Can you be friends with your ex?”
The answer is “YES” and yes again – however whether it’s healthy for you to be friends with your ex is a whole other ball game.
Now when i say is it healthy, think about how important it is that we maintain healthy relationships,friendships, and think will being friends with my ex make me a better,happier person in reality or am i deceiving myself, society says that
“being able to be friends with your ex is a sign of maturity”
And its also a sign of maturity when you know its time to burn that bridge, because let’s face it a lot of people believe in the idea of something vs the reality of what it. ESPECIALLY in relationships, because we forget that when we are friends for someone we are there through the good and the bad times e.g “going through issues with the opposite sex”.
I say this now everyone says they can handle it until they hear that person you cared or even still care about talking about someone else with the same VIMMMM they used when they spoke about you, it will pull at your heart chords small but if you are able to put your emotions aside and give your genuine unbiased advice knowing that you WHOLEHEARTEDLY (not 80/20) have THEIR best interest at heart then go you, be their friend.
if you feel that tug in your chest when they speak about someone else, and you feel your chest tighten and your skin starts sweating, sis/bro abandon ship right now, this friendship is not for you in fact you should just delete their number now.
Why? I hear you asking yourself
It’s simple- YOU ARE NOT OVER THEM YET!
Oh but I am – you will always have feelings…
My friend please, you and I both know that statement is used to make the other party feel warm inside on those cold nights
Aww I’ll have feelings for you but
When people say but my friend better ignore the part before because it’s “post-but” that really matters (think about when you have used that sentence)
you will find yourself retweeting those sadlovequotes on Twitter everyday hoping that your “friend” puts two and two together and sends you that message, let me just tell you now they see your retweets and scroll past or they’ve muted you whichever one but they don’t care dawg.
By saying they don’t care I’m saying they don’t care romantically for you so therefore they don’t even acknowledge your tweets as they think you guys are friends so it cannot be about them.
So really you are just playing yourself on repeat.
But to those who parted with ex’s even though you hated them during the first 48 – yet you guys have now spoken laughed and agree to respect each other’s personal space then I don’t see why not –
because everyone loves to scream your partner should be your best friend (yet logic suddenly becomes invalid when break up happens init?!) think about it if we apply that logic then when you and your friends fall out you guys find a way to make peace even if you don’t stay the closest of friends you will reach some place of peace (again in some situations you just gotta burn that bridge like burrrrn it)
However if you feel like you are CAN be friends with your ex and successfully then goo be freee be friends be happy but if you are still lurking on the page of their love interest with burning in chest then…..