Great essay. I was sent that particular segment of the rabbi’s conversation about fish love by someone I am presently in the throes of attempting to disconnect with and it’s all over the place. He goes on to talk about how “giving” of oneself to another is implanting part of you within them and therefore, still a sort of self love when you claim to love them. So, do we “love” at all, then? Selflessness in the guise of guise of giving is still selfish.
We’re still figuring it out, I guess. As for “beautiful” being a poor excuse to give as why someone loves another, society pushes the idea being called such is a compliment and it’s the same as being called successful, clever, or even funny. All great attributes in a companion but mostly because of the benefits derived from them. Some naturally occurring, others obtained, all still for the sole enjoyment of the person who has them, not those who live peripherally beside them.
I guess you could say I don’t really get this concept of “love”. I just think we’re all parasitic and so, accordingly, attach ourselves to those who we think is beneficial to us. Until we don’t. Then detach.
Anyway, I’m just thinking and typing at the same time at this point. Interesting topic.