Your family might be holding you back From success

To me this picture resonates what happens in most households. Don’t get me wrong for what I am about to say but misery loves company. What happens many times the parents transfer their insecurities to their children ,and the kids end up creating distorted perception about life. It does happen unconsciously, the kids grow up to be just like their parents thus never fulfilling their full potential because of the fear to disappoint them or afraid to not meet their parents’ expectation.

As I said before, don’t get me wrong. They love you, they really do. However, following their footsteps is not exactly how you see yourself. They want security, it’s not completely their fault, they are coming from a completely different age.

Too bad many moms and dads still oblivious to the changes we are seeing in the world. Now more than ever we have the ability to do almost anything we want to a certain degree. I confidently say this because the internet is proof, if you are incompetent and too lazy to climb the corporate ladder now you can build your own ladder.

Now heading to the business side of things it´s evident the number of millionaires the internet has created in the last decade including people in Africa. I don’t even have to check the data to sound like I did a deep research on this.It is so obvious, just look at the apps you have on your phone, the life of some youtubers. I’m quite deep into digital marketing so I know what I’m talking about.

I drifted off the topic simply to make a point that sometimes the discouragement to do great things start from home, lack of faith, belief or of people to look up to as far as success in any area of life.

Most times it takes a lot of suffering before realizing that at some point you are going to have to have that face to face conversation with your parents where you are going to politely tell them to F’ off ,so you can find your wings back and find your will to make something out of life. Because for sure not everybody is born to study, find a stable job, get a nice wife or husband, save money, have children then die. I firmly believe there is more to life than that, not that there is anything wrong with that path it’s just that times are changing.

That’s when purpose comes to the context; very few people get to find their purpose because more than 50% of the people is living someone else’s. Everybody has a gift, It is our duty to find it and make something out of it.

But then again our educational system is not in the business of discovering ones true gifts and developing them fully and realizing how truly gifted everyone really is and making a use of it.

Teachers judge our ability by the results on tests and exams based on subjects that we barely understand ,and we use those very same criteria to determine our chances of succeeding ,which of course is not an accurate way of measuring ones potential ,so much that the real successful people, the billionaires like Steve Jobs and Bill Gates never graduated.

In the words of Robert Kiyosaki, GENIUS stands for Geni-in-us. Geni meaning magic. God created every animal, every species to have a especial advantage .For instance birds can fly, cheetahs run fast, so if animals have special advantages so does each and everyone of us. For example, Tiger Woods is a genius in the environment called golf course but would not be a genius as a Jockey.

And we look at Mick Jagger who went to school to be an accountant but became a billionaire as a Rolling Stone. Now our job is to have the courage to find our environment like Tiger Woods on the golf course or Oprah in front of the television therefore finding the spot where our genius comes out. That’s what intelligence is.

I’m also trying to figure out the same, and the more I learn I realize how much my teachers and lecturers where wrong that maybe being an employee is just a bridge for me to get where I’m destined to be. I hope that Marketing and motivation has something to do with it.

Intelligence is don’t do as you are told but go where you genius can come out. It’s not easy it takes persistence and discipline, even Michael Jackson on an interview said that he would practise the spin for at least 6 hours a day.

Therefore, parents I hope you invest in your children and build confidence because they are the ones who will take things forward once you go to the other side. Do what is right not what everybody is doing.

And Thank you for sticking until the end hope you enjoyed the read.

Arsenio Ntimane

Arsenio "Musithe" Ntimane

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