get out of your own way: tips to not sabotage your dreams
Women can be awfully good at getting in their own way.
We have the skills, the knowledge, the drive, we’re ready to realize our dreams … and yet. We flail, we stall, or worse, we sabotage the success we so desperately want. How can we identify what we’re doing wrong and get on the path towards achieving our goals? Sometimes we just need a partner.
We found that partner in Lara Dalch. Lara is a health and lifestyle coach to “women on the rise” — women who crave practical tools for feeling healthy, confident, and powerful again so they can have the career and life they really want.
Lara has had a very colorful and non-traditional career path. We asked her, how do you go from working at Comedy Central to health and lifestyle coaching? Perhaps not surprisingly, her own hectic lifestyle was the inspiration behind helping others get control of theirs.
“I stopped falling asleep at my desk!”
Lara gives us a few more details on how her own improved life was her lightbulb moment. “I stopped falling asleep at my desk!” Now she helps others be fully present — and awake — in their lives and work.
We wanted to know, how do clients know it’s time to seek help? If you’re saying things like, “I’m exhausted all the time,” or “My food is a disaster,” or if you feel like you’re just not “showing up” in work and life the way you want, you might need a Lara.
Lots of women (and men) undoubtedly fit the criteria of needing a Lara. What keeps us from getting the support we need? Lara says, “They’re afraid they’re not going to show up for themselves.” Hmmmm… having a great idea, getting all excited and prepped, then just not moving forward. Sound familiar?
Asking for help is often seen as a sign of weakness in modern times. But Lara says it’s one of the most courageous things a high-achiever can do. Lara takes us through the many ways we show we need support and the benefits of getting it.
On the surface, we should be getting healthier: we have more knowledge, more health care and treatment options…so why are we feeling so bloody awful? First, there is such a thing as “too much information” — Lara tells us how to stop looking outside your body when the answers lie within.
Lara sees herself as a “partner” in achieving optimal health and wellness — a partner to the client but also to the network of other supports in a woman’s life. Often we have tons of advice from lots of expert sources, but we’re missing the implementation piece. It’s great to have a nutrition plan; even better if you know how to follow it.
Women over 40 have different challenges than their younger sisters, and they often seem much less doable in our 40s than they did in our 20s. According to Lara, there’s no reason to think you can no longer achieve your goals just because you’re older. The magic pixie dust that’ll get you there? Time.
Lara really enjoys working with women in the 40s and 50s. She gives us the low down on the special gifts women in midlife bring to the table.
We all know it’s true, even if we can’t seem to make it happen: women who are successful are those who are focused on integrating self-care into their lives. In her talk on the Five Powerful Habits of Women on the Rise, Lara details what successful women have in common. Here’s the good news: it’s all stuff you can have too. Lara shares the details.
Finally, we asked Lara what a woman should do if she’s considering finding herself a coach. “Be open to going a little out of your comfort zone,” Lara tells us. Openness to experimenting, tuning into your body in a new way, making the decision to move forward toward your goals, those are the beginning to your healthier, more fulfilled future.
Want more Lara? Get her free guide to discover your unique way of getting in your own way when it comes to eating healthier, exercising more, getting more sleep, and kicking the habits that have gotten you out of shape and out of sorts.
A regular contributor to popular health and wellness website MindBodyGreen, Lara has been a featured speaker at Microsoft, Flywheel Sports, Orangetheory Fitness, the University of Virginia, and the University of California, Berkeley. She holds a B.A. in Psychology from the University of Virginia, is a Certified Pilates Instructor, and received her training to practice health coaching via the State University of New York and the Institute for Integrative Nutrition.
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