First about your story … you should try letting your partner know what it is you want rather than just telling them what you didn’t get. If someone acted that way to me, well, I’d probably react similarly to how he did if I didn’t know what my partner wanted from me.
You claim that most men are uneducated about what exactly will get women off, yet you failed to provide any incite whatsoever to your partner who likely didn’t know what you wanted them to do, especially if we’re taking your claim of uneducation to heart. Why wouldn’t you simply communicate?
Instead of telling him what you wanted, you likely hurt his feelings and/or ego by telling him what you didn’t get while providing no incite on how he could rectify the situation. Clearly, he didn’t know what you wanted and you weren’t going to tell him. Why?
It’s widely known, especially by women (right?) that communication is practically the #1 key to a successful sexual relationship in virtually any scenario.
Seems to me like some kind of other issue at play here. Maybe the guy was a jerk in other ways and you didn’t like him. Maybe you were an angsty teen.
I just really don’t see how you can justify acting like that to someone without even giving them a chance, especially while freely admitting that they likely had no idea what you wanted them to do because society hadn’t taught them well enough.
As for the “make her come” argument … I’m sorry but it’s just going too far for me because that phrase is used equally among sexes. It’s not specific to sex. It’s said both ways all the time and even for same sex relationships.
It’s very common for a female to say “come for me” to a male or for a male to say “make me come” to a female. Or for a male to say “come for me” is almost as common. Or any combination of the two. Or any combination of similar phrases to any combination of the two sexes. It has absolutely nothing to do with what you claim and has more to do with the intimacy that comes with sex and the intimate nature of the verbiage “make me” or “for me” or something similar. It’s often even turned into a question.
ala “will you come for me?”
