Thank you for your thoughtful, painful piece. I am sending it around. And please know that it needn’t always be so. Keep looking for a place that is good enough to deserve you. Example: Adrianne is a colleague at New Relic, a black, trans, lesbian woman. She is out and supported by a broad web of colleagues. She has posted quite publicly about what her path has taught her. And she has graced our podium to talk to engineers about her experience and what she has learned from it. We are honored to have her — and others who might find themselves marginalized at some tech companies.