If you don’t think you’re fabulous, why should anyone else think it?

Na-Ha Herouard
Jul 28, 2017 · 2 min read

Years ago, when I was a teenager, a boy I liked once said to me “if you don’t love yourself, why would anyone else love you?” I was so shocked and hurt! That statement was so blunt and it shook me to my core. However, I realised that he was right! It’s been very valuable advice to this day.

Two weeks ago, I was at an event where I met a brilliant young lady. I was telling her all about the confidence coaching I do and she told me about a phrase someone had said to her earlier that same week: “If you don’t think you’re FABULOUS, why should anyone think it?” It made me smile — it was a nicer statement than the one I heard first, but it meant the same thing.

Why do we wait for others to think that we are smart, beautiful, sexy, (FABULOUS!) before we start believing it ourselves? What power do other have over us that we need evidence of their acceptance before we see what is good in us? In addition, we more readily believe

But what these two phrases clarify is that it works the other way around! Others will see what we show them. To put it simply, we look like we feel. So feel fabulous, look fabulous!, as simple as that.

What do I mean by “look fabulous”? Yes, make-up and clothes are important, but more than anything it’s your body language that says it all. How do you stand? What do you do with your hands when you meet someone for the first time? Do you look at people in the eyes?

You’re right, easier said (or written for that matter) than done.

But you don’t need to be the most confident person in the world to start looking fabulous. With just some very small changes you can have a very different impact. And although at the beginning they may feel fake, with practice you will get more and more comfortable, until it’s natural. Do you know the saying “Fake it ‘till you make it”? Same concept!

Take a couple of minutes right now and look at yourself in a mirror. Think of all the things that you like about yourself and write them down. Think of all the things you have achieved and you are proud of and write them down. Finally, think about those who love you, what do they see in you that makes them love you? You guessed it, write it down! There you are, you see? You’re already fabulous. Now the trick is not to forget this

I’ve also written another article with some tips to help you feel and look fabulous. Check it out!

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Making the world a better place by listening and empowering those around me, in Spanish, English and French. Check out na-ha.com

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