I’m not sure what the original argument was, but I had to come in on this part, because I have experience. The truth is that you really don’t know what you will or won’t do in a hypothetical. You can say that you would be able to fend off an attack or that you would take drastic action, but unless you’ve been there, you don’t know.
I have been the victim of a random attacker, having been surprised in the middle of the night, in my bed, by a home invader. I did not attack him for several reasons, the main one being that I was at a severe disadvantage. I ceded temporary power, because I was thinking the whole time of how I could get out of this alive.
I had an unloaded .38 revolver in a box near my bed, and I realized that here was power. I also realized that my attacker could get at the gun faster than I could, and also that he was likely desperate and drugged and had likely invaded houses before. I had to think carefully in order to stay alive. If I had attacked in my weak position, it is likely he would have killed me. I was tied up and raped by this man, and I did not fight back at the time, because I knew that, if I did, he would kill me. I had to bide my time, as awful as it was, and then wait until he was most likely away from the room. I then untied myself, loaded my gun silently and swept the house. If he had been there still, I would have had to kill him.
I try not to live in a defensive mode, because it prioritizes fear, and fear can breed impulsiveness and can also bring on conflicts that could be avoided. I could not have predicted what happened to me, and I know that someone who has not been in my situation cannot know how they would handle it. I took the sensible route and survived to press charges and see my attacker convicted.
Sorry for the long response, but I had to add my 10 cents (inflation).