Don’t make a big deal out of it. It’s the pendulum swinging the other way these days. People back then were secretive about being gay, so coming out of the closet was a risky move. Nowadays, people want to emphasize how gay they are and all of that jazz.
It’s just going from one extreme to the next. Why not just meet people halfway and compromise down the middle? If you happen to be gay, then great. Coexist. Move on with life. That’s how I approach people who happen to be gay. I don’t make an extra fuss about it. I treat them as another human being over anything else. I don’t try to ostracize or elevate their status because their orientation is not like the collective norm.
The problem is, unfortunately, a lot of people want to make their sexuality into such a major matter. If you are living in a part of the world that does not persecute you for being gay, if you have actual access to things like marriage and whatnot, then you are already better off than those who literally get jumped and killed for it.
Pick your battles. No one wants to be lectured by people, gay or otherwise, about that privilege word when individuals like myself probably do not care in the most indifferent sense possible.