So a fixed mindset friend can be an uncomfortable person to hang out with because their fixedness is catching. They handicap our growth. The anticipation of judgement causes us to take a defensive stance, and because we’re in a state of protection, we hold ourselves back. We can’t take risks when we’re under threat. We can’t stretch ourselves when we’re fearfully clinging to a sense of worth which seems to be under fire, so we feel that can’t learn around these people.