I feel you girl. This: “ Haven’t we all been young and dumb, fumbling our way through life, hurting people and being hurt and hopefully coming out the other side of it a little saner and wiser? And isn’t that sort of great?”
I am still getting off my own personal shame cycle, coupled with finally processing the delayed grief of my father passing away when I hit puberty.
I think people have different journeys to traverse in life and judging someone because theirs is different to yours and you happened to have a straighter, clearer path is selfish, actually malicious at worst.